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Only way I could actually do that would be to have a physical shutdown/timed power switch that cut me off. I have that for my personal devices in order to get t

Only way I could actually do that would be to have a physical shutdown/timed power switch that cut me off. I have that for my personal devices in order to get to bed on time. If I had to WFH long term, I'd institute that for sure, else there's no way I can just switch off. I can't really set my own boundaries.

ondee 6y ago
Then you need to talk to a professional about it. Life doesn't have to be like this, I promise :)
jlokier 6y ago
What nullsense is describing is a problem a lot of people are reporting during pandemic WFH. It doesn't make sense to trivialise it, it's a real and significant problem. What makes sense is to understand it and come up with ways to change it. Brains have a lot to answer for. So do social pressures inside homes. Maybe your brain needs 2 x 1 hour chunks every day, staring out of a window with nothing you have to do, nobody to talk with, no pressure whatsoever, supported even by an effortless coffee and snack that magically arrive, to reset your brain between major contexts. But in some homes, taking 2 hours of "downtime" will result in conflict on a regular basis, and it will escalate. Maybe you'll get asked to do more chores. Fix things on the household backlog. Talk through things on the household backlog. Maybe you'll find yourself in conversations that prevent you getting essential brain-rest that you were used to before WFH. There's a big difference in practice in domestic interactions between being physically unavailable because you're on the train or in a car for 2 hours, versus looking to others like you're doing "nothing" for 2 hours. This is not a problem which can be solved by some little conversation. Even when other people understand, they don't feel at ease. It's a lingering point of conflict in many households, previously resolved by leaving the house and "having to go". If you don't have other people at home, that are different issues at play, but a lot of people are reporting similar brain boundary issues with pandemic WFH when living alone too.

ondee 6y ago

Then you need to talk to a professional about it. Life doesn't have to be like this, I promise :)

jlokier 6y ago

What nullsense is describing is a problem a lot of people are reporting during pandemic WFH. It doesn't make sense to trivialise it, it's a real and significant problem. What makes sense is to understand it and come up with ways to change it. Brains have a lot to answer for. So do social pressures inside homes. Maybe your brain needs 2 x 1 hour chunks every day, staring out of a window with nothing you have to do, nobody to talk with, no pressure whatsoever, supported even by an effortless coffee and snack that magically arrive, to reset your brain between major contexts. But in some homes, taking 2 hours of "downtime" will result in conflict on a regular basis, and it will escalate. Maybe you'll get asked to do more chores. Fix things on the household backlog. Talk through things on the household backlog. Maybe you'll find yourself in conversations that prevent you getting essential brain-rest that you were used to before WFH. There's a big difference in practice in domestic interactions between being physically unavailable because you're on the train or in a car for 2 hours, versus looking to others like you're doing "nothing" for 2 hours. This is not a problem which can be solved by some little conversation. Even when other people understand, they don't feel at ease. It's a lingering point of conflict in many households, previously resolved by leaving the house and "having to go". If you don't have other people at home, that are different issues at play, but a lot of people are reporting similar brain boundary issues with pandemic WFH when living alone too.