In my own attempts to understand my emotions better and give them proper attention, I've found that it's helpful to: 1) explicitly state what emotions I'm feel

In my own attempts to understand my emotions better and give them proper attention, I've found that it's helpful to: 1) explicitly state what emotions I'm feeling (this is surprisingly difficult for me) 2) figure out why I'm feeling that way. Logic and rigorous thinking becomes relevant for that second step - it's where the "both / and" union of the two modes happens. This process forms the backbone of "Nonviolent Communication": https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/ https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/ If you want to have effective, kind conflicts, that book is a must-read.