If it were me I would have said something like: 0: Before we start, I'd like to give you some feedback on what you just aid - is that ok? <if not then wait unt

If it were me I would have said something like: 0: Before we start, I'd like to give you some feedback on what you just aid - is that ok? <if not then wait until later> 1: When you said "you'd take feedback as long as it was valid"... <use direct evidence of behavior> 2: ...it made me feel that you were not receptive to feedback, and that you would not be ready to change if I gave you feedback. <say how it made you, your colleagues, clients etc. feel> 3: pause <and wait for explanation, give clarification on behaviors but don't enter into squabble on whether it was right or wrong> 4: In future I'd suggest there are three things I've found that are good to do when someone wants to give feedback. Let's go through them: a: drop what you are doing and listen - they have taken the time to try to understand what you are doing and to help you to improve. b: listen to the feedback with an open mind, ask clarifying questions and have a proactive problem soling approach to solving the issue c: thank the person for the feedback at the end <think of a practical and doable solution, and don't be afraid to offer your help to the person.> The whole process should take 5 minutes or less, and should focus on one specific behavior. Try not to do several feedbacks at once - there is only so much we can handle. This is straight from the McKinsey playbook, and one of the reasons the firm has been so successful.