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> I once shook hands with Bill Clinton, and for one tiny moment, he made me feel like the most important person in the world. That's charisma. > It's not far o
by wallflower 6y ago
> I once shook hands with Bill Clinton, and for one tiny moment, he made me feel like the most important person in the world. That's charisma.
> It's not far off from love, is it? When someone's in love with you, they see you as the most wonderful person in the world. It's a hell of a feeling. If you can do that for people you're not in love with, you've got charisma.
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> I think the formula for charisma is simple: convince people that you see them as better than they see themselves. If you make people feel like they're special -- smarter, funnier, braver, more beautiful -- than they think they are, they'll stick around you because they want to see themselves this way.
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- hindsightbias 6y agoI shook hands with Clinton in 1990. Did not know at that moment who he was, but knew he was important. Not physically the guy other guys would think had movie star looks or charisma (say, like JFK), but very confident and looked you straight in the eye. Everyone at that event can tell you what conversation they had with him and every conversation was on a different topic. He was curious, approachable, a sponge of knowledge and never forgot a face and name (particularly if you were attractive). So you can get along with decent looks, a bit of charisma, but a lot farther if you know how to be engaging in conversations and make people feel special/important.