I’ll also add to your point that we seem to have this reverse troubleshooting with men. We admonish them in their adult life for lacking self control or rigor (

I’ll also add to your point that we seem to have this reverse troubleshooting with men. We admonish them in their adult life for lacking self control or rigor (sexual harassment or being a deadbeat), but then excuse them when it matters (not focusing on school, playing video games all day, not learning social skills). Which one do you think comes first, and which do you think is the root cause that needs to be fixed?