> I began to hate it less when I remembered a little empathy game that has served me well. The question is not, "when I leave the bathroom, is everyone looking

> I began to hate it less when I remembered a little empathy game that has served me well. The question is not, "when I leave the bathroom, is everyone looking at me and judging me for having used it?" Rather, the question is, "when I see someone else leave the bathroom, do I think about it for more than a fraction of a second, and if I knew they had defecated, would I want to shame or embarrass them for it at all?" before WFH, I worked at a desk in an open floorplan. for whatever reason, it gives me a constant low level of anxiety to be in an environment where lots of people can see me, especially if I can't easily tell when people are actually looking. so I used to go to the bathroom a bit more often than I really needed, just so I could spend a few minutes in a more private space. I personally don't care, but I certainly do notice which of my coworkers also seem to be frequent users of the bathroom. if I were a pointy-haired boss, that might be one of the data points used to assemble my list of slackers.