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I dont mind that, what drives me nuts is the people who say "hi", then wait for you to say "hi", then they start typing the message they wanted to send, taking

I dont mind that, what drives me nuts is the people who say "hi", then wait for you to say "hi", then they start typing the message they wanted to send, taking 5 minutes to write a short essay, while you're sitting there distracted and waiting.

MereInterest 6y ago
Each time that they do, have an auto reply set up to respond with https://www.nohello.com/2013/01/please-dont-say-just-hello-in-chat.html https://www.nohello.com/2013/01/please-dont-say-just-hello-i... ?
- x87678r 6y ago
  Nice. https://www.nohello.com/ https://www.nohello.com/ is easier to remember, I'll start doing this.
  - jobigoud 6y ago
    Yeah they should redesign that website to be a single simple page with the content of that unique blog post. It's a bit ironic that they don't get straight to the point.
    - MereInterest 6y ago
      Looks like the desktop version goes straight to the point, but the mobile version doesn't.
- yesenadam 6y ago
  I like it. But in the second example they've already finished typing the whole question by the time they said Hi in the first.. then we're told the second way finishes "minutes sooner"? Hmm. That appears to make no sense. Not wasting the other person's time is however super-important, and a great fast test of whether someone is considerate enough to be an online friend or not.
- pipnonsense 6y ago
  I remember facing this situation a couple of times and all I did was ignore the initial "Hi", after a long time my interlocutor would insist "Hi? Are you there?"; and then I would finally reply "Yes! I just thought you would continue to write your message and I was waiting". This "play dumb" strategy worked great for me and I think it has less risk to be perceived as "rude" compared to sending a link to the nohello.com site.
- SomewhatLikely 6y ago
  I think this is often used when the person could save minutes of work if you're around to give some knowledge, but if you're not they'll go ahead and research it. No point in them or you spending more time typing if the connection can't be made in the moment.
AnIdiotOnTheNet 6y ago
I agree. I have a coworker who does this on the phone too. "Hey, how are you?", ugh. Look, you didn't call me and interrupt whatever I was doing to chit chat, tell me what the damned problem is.
- taxcoder 6y ago
  Agreed. If I want to talk to you, we can do that once we discuss why you called. I know you really aren't interested in what you are asking me, you are getting ready to ask me the real question.
- anthropodie 6y ago
  In India, it's more like, "Kaha hai tu?". Translated: where are you? I am like same planet you are on.
analyst74 6y ago
I hear a lot of people express this sentiment, and I honestly don't fully understand the frustration. Why do you have to wait for them to type out the real message? Is there some social/messaging etiquette that I'm breaking by ... read and get back to them when I have time?
- notJim 6y ago
  They've already potentially interrupted you by sending you that "hi". But the "hi" contains zero content. And worst of all, they often wait for your reply, which means you have to actually do something to get them to tell you what they wanted to tell you.
- x87678r 6y ago
  If you say straight away what you're writing about I can decide how important it is and if I should interrupt my current task. I'd rather see something like: hi - can you please approve this ticket 123 hi - URGENT the website is out can you please check the DB hi - do you want to come to the bar tonight with the team If you just say "hi", I dont know which one its going to be. Put it in one line I know whether to pay attention or do later.
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birdyrooster 6y ago
It's like they want to pretend they had anything to offer in the conversation. They want to hide the fact that all they had was a question. All they ever have is questions.
- birdyrooster 6y ago
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stanski 6y ago
I hope this email finds you well.
jobigoud 6y ago
Or the related "Hi, can I ask you a question?"

MereInterest 6y ago

Each time that they do, have an auto reply set up to respond with https://www.nohello.com/2013/01/please-dont-say-just-hello-in-chat.html https://www.nohello.com/2013/01/please-dont-say-just-hello-i... ?

x87678r 6y ago
Nice. https://www.nohello.com/ https://www.nohello.com/ is easier to remember, I'll start doing this.
- jobigoud 6y ago
  Yeah they should redesign that website to be a single simple page with the content of that unique blog post. It's a bit ironic that they don't get straight to the point.
  - MereInterest 6y ago
    Looks like the desktop version goes straight to the point, but the mobile version doesn't.
yesenadam 6y ago
I like it. But in the second example they've already finished typing the whole question by the time they said Hi in the first.. then we're told the second way finishes "minutes sooner"? Hmm. That appears to make no sense. Not wasting the other person's time is however super-important, and a great fast test of whether someone is considerate enough to be an online friend or not.
pipnonsense 6y ago
I remember facing this situation a couple of times and all I did was ignore the initial "Hi", after a long time my interlocutor would insist "Hi? Are you there?"; and then I would finally reply "Yes! I just thought you would continue to write your message and I was waiting". This "play dumb" strategy worked great for me and I think it has less risk to be perceived as "rude" compared to sending a link to the nohello.com site.
SomewhatLikely 6y ago
I think this is often used when the person could save minutes of work if you're around to give some knowledge, but if you're not they'll go ahead and research it. No point in them or you spending more time typing if the connection can't be made in the moment.

AnIdiotOnTheNet 6y ago

I agree. I have a coworker who does this on the phone too. "Hey, how are you?", ugh. Look, you didn't call me and interrupt whatever I was doing to chit chat, tell me what the damned problem is.

taxcoder 6y ago
Agreed. If I want to talk to you, we can do that once we discuss why you called. I know you really aren't interested in what you are asking me, you are getting ready to ask me the real question.
anthropodie 6y ago
In India, it's more like, "Kaha hai tu?". Translated: where are you? I am like same planet you are on.

analyst74 6y ago

I hear a lot of people express this sentiment, and I honestly don't fully understand the frustration. Why do you have to wait for them to type out the real message? Is there some social/messaging etiquette that I'm breaking by ... read and get back to them when I have time?

notJim 6y ago
They've already potentially interrupted you by sending you that "hi". But the "hi" contains zero content. And worst of all, they often wait for your reply, which means you have to actually do something to get them to tell you what they wanted to tell you.
x87678r 6y ago
If you say straight away what you're writing about I can decide how important it is and if I should interrupt my current task. I'd rather see something like: hi - can you please approve this ticket 123 hi - URGENT the website is out can you please check the DB hi - do you want to come to the bar tonight with the team If you just say "hi", I dont know which one its going to be. Put it in one line I know whether to pay attention or do later.
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birdyrooster 6y ago

It's like they want to pretend they had anything to offer in the conversation. They want to hide the fact that all they had was a question. All they ever have is questions.

birdyrooster 6y ago
/s

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stanski 6y ago

I hope this email finds you well.

jobigoud 6y ago

Or the related "Hi, can I ask you a question?"