The fact that the project is more known for the abrasive nature of its team members than for its great software (like OpenSSH or OpenBGPD or PF) pretty much sum

The fact that the project is more known for the abrasive nature of its team members than for its great software (like OpenSSH or OpenBGPD or PF) pretty much sums up the sad sad state of affairs. It's their project and they can do as they damn well please, but really, a little kindness would go a long way. The software may be open, but the project is not.