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> But, if you don't have partner, what exactly is the reason for moving to live alone and why is focus specifically on "omg someone lives with parents"? Freedo

> But, if you don't have partner, what exactly is the reason for moving to live alone and why is focus specifically on "omg someone lives with parents"? Freedom, independence, personal autonomy. Even having good relations with my parents i prefer to have some distance and meet them on equal terms. And i do not know about 'American'. Preference for independent living seems common also here in Europe. > I mean, multigenerational households were historical norm. Yes, because people cannot afford independent home from young age. Once society became wealthier, norms changed.

refurb 6y ago
i prefer to have some distance and meet them on equal terms This is an interesting observation. I know several cultures typically have children living with parents until they are married, but I've (anecdotally) noticed they tend to have very different relationships with their parents. Parents are much more involved in their children's lives and decisions they make, sometimes to the detriment of the children.
pessimizer 6y ago
I prefer not to meet with my parents on equal terms even though I'm middle-aged and they're approaching old age. I've got billions of people I can treat like strangers, why not give my first teachers a special status? You might say that I treat my parents as if they were my very own parents. I don't understand the lionization of letting the atomization of society pervade even your closest and oldest relationships. I understood what my mother was before I understood what walking was, and far before I understood what a dollar was. I don't feel a need to be absolutely autonomous to be an adult. I also don't feel free to disappoint my parents just because they can't punish me for it.
watwut 6y ago
When I moved out, I did not gained autonomy or freedom I would be missing in your theory. I largely lived same lifestyle as when with parents. I for more space, but that is it. I lost autonomy and freedom and independence when I had children. That was hard to accept for me. But it was something completely different.

refurb 6y ago

i prefer to have some distance and meet them on equal terms This is an interesting observation. I know several cultures typically have children living with parents until they are married, but I've (anecdotally) noticed they tend to have very different relationships with their parents. Parents are much more involved in their children's lives and decisions they make, sometimes to the detriment of the children.

pessimizer 6y ago

I prefer not to meet with my parents on equal terms even though I'm middle-aged and they're approaching old age. I've got billions of people I can treat like strangers, why not give my first teachers a special status? You might say that I treat my parents as if they were my very own parents. I don't understand the lionization of letting the atomization of society pervade even your closest and oldest relationships. I understood what my mother was before I understood what walking was, and far before I understood what a dollar was. I don't feel a need to be absolutely autonomous to be an adult. I also don't feel free to disappoint my parents just because they can't punish me for it.

watwut 6y ago

When I moved out, I did not gained autonomy or freedom I would be missing in your theory. I largely lived same lifestyle as when with parents. I for more space, but that is it. I lost autonomy and freedom and independence when I had children. That was hard to accept for me. But it was something completely different.