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Living with their parents is a symptom of not being able to afford living on their own.

by brazzy 6y ago

decafninja 6y ago
Outside of Western society, or maybe just outside of American society, this is completely untrue. In parts of Asia, and even in Asian enclaves in the US, you can even see high earning people (say...hedge fundies, or FAANG SWEs) living with their parents. In these cultures, marriage is typically the point where you move out, not graduating college.
- seehafer 6y ago
  Small nuclear family domiciles (as opposed to multigenerational family domiciles) are a particular feature of Anglo-Saxon-influenced cultures. So it's more common to see this in Mediterranean Europe (e.g. the Italian 'mammone') https://www.thelocal.it/20180619/italy-mammone-living-at-home https://www.thelocal.it/20180619/italy-mammone-living-at-hom... as well.
  - wahern 6y ago
    Not just Anglo-Saxon but Northwest Europe, and the pattern goes back at least 400 years. I haven't seen any maps but I think it probably very roughly corresponds with the Hajnal line: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hajnal_line https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hajnal_line Of course, modern American notions of the nuclear family are a little different from the historical norm as wealth and health put limits on its expression. Modern, middle-class East Asian norms are probably closer to the pattern hundreds of years ago in Northwest Europe.[1] But in terms of comparative culture the distinctions are crystal clear across time. [1] Of course, hundreds of years ago (or just 100 years ago), many East Asian cultures had uber multigenerational clan households and even entire villages. I heard a story over dinner once from an elderly Chinese-Singaporean. His parents were migrants from China. His father died when he was a baby, and his mother died when he was about 8. Every night his mother had him sing and memorize a song that described his [paternal] family's village. Fast-forward to his late 60s, he finally has the urge to travel to China to find his roots. All he had to go on was the general region and the song, which described some kind of confluence of mountains and rivers. He got close enough that a local was able to recognize the details and tell him the precise village. When he got there the villagers--mostly cousins, and even an uncle, IIRC--already knew all about him and his parents. Both his parents' death as well as his birth were recorded in the clan books, even though they happened in Malaysia and he has no idea how news traveled back to the village. They even showed him the shrine to his father, which was tended to by the new occupant (presumably a distant cousin) of the house his father had previously lived in.
watwut 6y ago
I could afford to move out sooner, but it would be waste of money. Instead I gave parents something out of what I earned to cover what I eat and some. It just was not an issue in any way. What exactly would I gained if I moved elsewhere to live alone or with roommate?
- abellerose 6y ago
  Not everyone has parents that are normal people. Some people have parents that are abusive. Unsure if you're looking for why some people do want to move out as soon as possible but that's a main one for a lot of people. I know a lot of college adults cannot afford to go to university while having a part time job and living alone. Sucks for them if their parents are abusive. Not so much if parents are okay.
  - pessimizer 6y ago
    Also some people don't have parents. But your family doesn't have to be the one you're born with. There are lots of families who have taken in one of their children's friends as a virtual child to rescue them from a bad situation. I'd assumed that most families have members who aren't actually related by blood or marriage. In my family, they end up being "uncles" and "aunts," but started off as "play-cousins" and "play-children." Maybe it's a black thing.
- refurb 6y ago
  What exactly would I gained if I moved elsewhere to live alone or with roommate? Independence. A sense of self-reliance. Freedom to make your own decisions (good or bad) and learn from them. Freedom to live your life as you want, even if your parents disagree with it.
  - asdff 6y ago
    You can do all of that while living with your parents, depending on if they treat you as an adult or not.
    - 6y ago

Living with their parents is a symptom of not being able to afford living on their own.

by brazzy 6y ago

Living with their parents is a symptom of not being able to afford living on their own.

Outside of Western society, or maybe just outside of American society, this is completely untrue. In parts of Asia, and even in Asian enclaves in the US, you can even see high earning people (say...hedge fundies, or FAANG SWEs) living with their parents. In these cultures, marriage is typically the point where you move out, not graduating college.

seehafer 6y ago
Small nuclear family domiciles (as opposed to multigenerational family domiciles) are a particular feature of Anglo-Saxon-influenced cultures. So it's more common to see this in Mediterranean Europe (e.g. the Italian 'mammone') https://www.thelocal.it/20180619/italy-mammone-living-at-home https://www.thelocal.it/20180619/italy-mammone-living-at-hom... as well.
- wahern 6y ago
  Not just Anglo-Saxon but Northwest Europe, and the pattern goes back at least 400 years. I haven't seen any maps but I think it probably very roughly corresponds with the Hajnal line: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hajnal_line https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hajnal_line Of course, modern American notions of the nuclear family are a little different from the historical norm as wealth and health put limits on its expression. Modern, middle-class East Asian norms are probably closer to the pattern hundreds of years ago in Northwest Europe.[1] But in terms of comparative culture the distinctions are crystal clear across time. [1] Of course, hundreds of years ago (or just 100 years ago), many East Asian cultures had uber multigenerational clan households and even entire villages. I heard a story over dinner once from an elderly Chinese-Singaporean. His parents were migrants from China. His father died when he was a baby, and his mother died when he was about 8. Every night his mother had him sing and memorize a song that described his [paternal] family's village. Fast-forward to his late 60s, he finally has the urge to travel to China to find his roots. All he had to go on was the general region and the song, which described some kind of confluence of mountains and rivers. He got close enough that a local was able to recognize the details and tell him the precise village. When he got there the villagers--mostly cousins, and even an uncle, IIRC--already knew all about him and his parents. Both his parents' death as well as his birth were recorded in the clan books, even though they happened in Malaysia and he has no idea how news traveled back to the village. They even showed him the shrine to his father, which was tended to by the new occupant (presumably a distant cousin) of the house his father had previously lived in.

watwut 6y ago

I could afford to move out sooner, but it would be waste of money. Instead I gave parents something out of what I earned to cover what I eat and some. It just was not an issue in any way. What exactly would I gained if I moved elsewhere to live alone or with roommate?

abellerose 6y ago
Not everyone has parents that are normal people. Some people have parents that are abusive. Unsure if you're looking for why some people do want to move out as soon as possible but that's a main one for a lot of people. I know a lot of college adults cannot afford to go to university while having a part time job and living alone. Sucks for them if their parents are abusive. Not so much if parents are okay.
- pessimizer 6y ago
  Also some people don't have parents. But your family doesn't have to be the one you're born with. There are lots of families who have taken in one of their children's friends as a virtual child to rescue them from a bad situation. I'd assumed that most families have members who aren't actually related by blood or marriage. In my family, they end up being "uncles" and "aunts," but started off as "play-cousins" and "play-children." Maybe it's a black thing.
refurb 6y ago
What exactly would I gained if I moved elsewhere to live alone or with roommate? Independence. A sense of self-reliance. Freedom to make your own decisions (good or bad) and learn from them. Freedom to live your life as you want, even if your parents disagree with it.
- asdff 6y ago
  You can do all of that while living with your parents, depending on if they treat you as an adult or not.
  - 6y ago