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The above two parent comments' anecdata suggest that for different people, saying Yes to almost everything, or saying No, can have the same result: to be more s
by lioeters 6y ago
The above two parent comments' anecdata suggest that for different people, saying Yes to almost everything, or saying No, can have the same result: to be more sastified with how life is going.
What's common between Yes and No is that they're both a deliberate act of choice, of having agency in deciding what happens.
For myself, saying No and sticking to my preferences have yielded great results. For example, I hate phones and insist on emails - it's impractical, I know, but by giving firm No's, people respect my communication preference at work and personal life.
On the other hand, there are some directions that I'd like to say more Yes to, to consciously open up possibilities.
I suppose it comes down to knowing when to say Yes and No, and to act on it.
- IggleSniggle 6y agoThis. “Agency,” also called “ownership of decisions,” is really what all this talk of “saying yes” and “saying no” is all about. The can even include ownership of the decision to “just go with the flow and do whatever in the moment,” but the intentionality of that decision is essential.
- stevesearer 6y agoAgency and control over time and decisions is probably also the essence of the regular HN debate over working from home or working from an office. Both can be best depending on the person.