That wasn't "saying no". You asked for an invitation, received one, and then withdrew. a: "Hey, good lookin'. Wanna get some coffee and maybe see if there's

That wasn't "saying no". You asked for an invitation, received one, and then withdrew. a: "Hey, good lookin'. Wanna get some coffee and maybe see if there's any chemistry between us?" b: "Hmm.... Yeah, ok. Let's go." a: "On second thought, I don't." This isn't to say at all that you did the wrong or a bad thing at any step (necessarily). "I sent the club a wire stating, "PLEASE ACCEPT MY RESIGNATION. I DON'T WANT TO BELONG TO ANY CLUB THAT WILL ACCEPT PEOPLE LIKE ME AS A MEMBER". " -- Groucho