"Buying" perks is ok-ish - the difference with state-regulated perks is that the employer has no way to tell 'no' to say, paternity leave. In other case, you ne

"Buying" perks is ok-ish - the difference with state-regulated perks is that the employer has no way to tell 'no' to say, paternity leave. In other case, you never get the certainty that you'll be allowed to use your perk when need it.