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Technology has created a barrage of notifications and interactions

64 points by elorant 6y ago

bryanrasmussen 6y ago
Yes it was much better in the old days when I used to work at Sunshine Desserts with those unbelievable idiots and had to brown nose C.J about what a genius he was, and then later when I had that great career swilling pigs until my back gave out. Back then, Work was an inescapable paradise.
- bpiche 6y ago
  DFW would be proud
  - AnimalMuppet 6y ago
    DFW? David Foster Wallace? Division of Fish and Wildlife? Or the airport?
    - j4nt4b 6y ago
      Is this a serious question?
      - AnimalMuppet 6y ago
        Yes. What is the DFW being referred to?
        samatman 6y ago
        When you list three acronym expansions, and two are incapable of feeling pride, you're not actually serious.
        AnimalMuppet 6y ago
        David Foster Wallace is pretty obscure, though, at least to me. I know it's the only human I gave, but I had no confidence that it was actually the right answer. Still don't, for that matter. [Edit: I was also trying to point out the ridiculousness of blasting out those initials and expecting that everyone would understand what they were supposed to represent.]
- easytiger 6y ago
  https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fall_and_Rise_of_Reginald_Perrin https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fall_and_Rise_of_Reginal... ?
  - bryanrasmussen 6y ago
    Yes, one of my favorites about the wonderful world of work.
the-dude 6y ago
Being financially independent is a choice.
- bboygravity 6y ago
  Not explaining yourself is also a choice.
- sithlord 6y ago
  Maybe for the top 10% (maybe even less) of workers.
- outworlder 6y ago
  This is a very privileged statement. For upper middle class with no issues whatsoever (health or otherwise), maybe with meticulous planning, one could reach financial independence in a decade, and that's a massive stretch. It's still a decade slaving away. EDIT: oh, and that only allows you to be financially independent at the same spending levels (hilariously minimal) that you have held so far. For anyone who doesn't have surplus income even after dropping down to the very basic necessities, it's not a choice at all.
- coliveira 6y ago
  If you inherited money, it is not a choice. If you have to work for several years until you get the FI, it is not a choice either, since many people don't have the health, technical ability, or environmental conditions to do it.
  - dredmorbius 6y ago
    The philosopher Diogenes was eating bread and lentils for supper. He was seen by the philosopher Aristippus, who lived comfortably by flattering the king. Said Aristippus, "If you would learn to be subservient to the king you would not have to live on lentils." Diogenes replied, "Learn to live on lentils and you will not have to be subservient to the king". There are trade-offs. The possibility may exist.
- FranzFerdiNaN 6y ago
gitpusher 6y ago
There are real problems here. But I can't see past the author's terrible personal habits that magnify every single one of them. Nobody forced them to: - start their day by reviewing COVID numbers - allow push-notifications from "news" apps - listen to NPR while showering - generally allow social media to dictate their mood/schedule All of these habits are as easy to change as they are damaging. Edit to add: In no way did I mean to belittle those who are afflicted by social media / news addiction. It's a very real problem, and such people deserve help and guidance to lessen their suffering.
- outworlder 6y ago
  > But I can't see past the author's terrible personal habits that magnify every single one of them. Keep in mind that this may or may not be an accurate reflection of the author's personal habits. We have no indications that this is true, that each one of these actions is not exaggerated, or that they even happened in the same day. Or even, more likely, that these are actually the habits of a fictional person that's trying to represent a huge fraction of the population. It could even be a form of criticism. We do know that there are people sharing similar routines.
  - gitpusher 6y ago
    Sure, she likely exaggerated things for narrative effect. I sympathize with those who are enslaved to their devices. It's an addiction, and it often correlates with mental health issues. Such people need help and guidance – not sarcastic dismissal. But, like any other addiction, the first step is taking responsibility. Instead of blaming the world for "hacking" your brain and sub-dividing your attention ad infinitum ... Take a step back and figure out what is (and isn't) under your control. Break the cycle. Have the courage to reject things that aren't serving you.
    - ryandrake 6y ago
      Part of the solution is just turning off notifications. Half of what the author described is apps interrupting what she was doing, demanding her attention. All smartphones provide the option to turn off these interruptions and badges. Just do it and never look back. I've gone even farther in that I run Do-Not-Disturb mode 24/7, so no notifications of any kind, no texts, even no phone calls. You can take back your attention when it's being stolen. You're totally right about the other half though, it's got to be some kind of addiction. Her compulsion to keep "checking" things online. Checking facebook, checking instagram, checking the news, checking the likes on this, checking messages on that, checking Slack, checking E-mail, even checking her frequent flyer mile count (WTF?). What is all this checking? What on earth is so important that you keep needing to poll for status updates? This behavior seems to be beyond what one could rationally explain and I agree with you that some professional help and guidance is probably in order!
jpm_sd 6y ago
Best part IMO is the notion of LARPing your job on Slack, which is a reference to this 2015 piece https://www.theawl.com/2015/04/are-you-just-larping-your-job/ https://www.theawl.com/2015/04/are-you-just-larping-your-job...
hn_throwaway_99 6y ago
Didn't read much beyond the title and opening paragraph, but I'll just throw out there: for me, work is most definitely not an inescapable hellhole. I enjoy my job very much, and feel very fortunate that I found a job that I like. Most tech professionals are in the extremely enviable position that if they hate their job, they have the opportunity to switch. I have been in jobs in the past where I dreaded going to work every day. In hindsight, the fault was my own; there is no reason I should have stayed in a job that was a bad fit for me as long as I did. I realize, and am grateful, that I can say this when many workers don't have this luxury, but also, many DO have this luxury and don't take advantage of it, or they're not willing to realize the problem is with specific things within their control to fix.
TurkishPoptart 6y ago
>I go on a walk. I get interrupted once, twice, 15 times by one of my group texts. Here's a problem. Walk/exercise WIHTOUT devices.
- pixl97 6y ago
  Like ones that help track how much you walk, your heart rate, your blood sugar, or other functions? Any other good advice?
vorpalhex 6y ago
I literally couldn't come up with a better example of False Dilemma fallacy: > Moving to the woods and going full Thoreau, for most of us, is simply not an option. The only long-term fix is making the background into foreground: calling out the exact ways digital technologies have colonized our lives, aggravating and expanding our burnout in the name of efficiency. Technology didn't colonize anything, you invited over an annoying house guest that you refuse to kick out. Turn off your phone and go pet a dog. You'll be better for it.
- selestify 6y ago
  More like, the house guest is a sweet talker who cajoles you into letting them stay every time despite them not doing much for you in return. Let’s not pretend like technology isn’t vigorously A/B testing its way into being as psychologically addicting as possible.
  - modeless 6y ago
    To me this analogy just underscores the absurdity of blaming the houseguest for this situation.
    - TeMPOraL 6y ago
      Why? It's not as if you spontaneously invited the house guest. Your guest arranged it so that you met them, then over time manipulated you into believing they would be a good company. Only thus conditioned, you agreed to have him over. And that's why I consider most advertising a malicious act.
  - Swizec 6y ago
    Like a vampire, needs to be invited in, won’t leave. Only solution is to aggressively deny all push notification requests
    - SOLAR_FIELDS 6y ago
      As an example of how this can be used maliciously I will put forth Grubhub. Anytime you request a delivery, they ask for push notifications, ostensibly such that they can alert you to the status of your delivery. But then they start to push advertisements after. Not directly after, mind you, but a week or two or even more after you got your delivery. One cat-and-mouse solution here might be the “know your location” notifier that iOS uses - allow push notifications only for today.
hikerclimber 6y ago
sounds about right... I wish technology never existed... created more problems than it is worth...
xnyan 6y ago
As a software developer I am absolutely in a privileged position that allows me to have this freedom, but I simply don’t accept jobs that send constant notifications, require me to be online and available all the time, constant after hours work, etc. etc. I make a little bit less money for that privilege, but I work a very nice schedule and have almost no job stress. It’s been one of the best decisions of my life, and I highly recommend thinking about your employer and what role they have in your happiness. I also have almost no notifications on my phone of any kind, text messages from my partner and friends is pretty much it. You may think you need notifications but you maybe surprised how little it impacts your life (expect less stress) not to have them.
- mellowdream 6y ago
  What kind of work do you do? I've heard nice things about working for the government (in terms of QOL, anyway), though of course the work is nothing sexy.
  - nicbou 6y ago
    Every job I've had was like that person describes. I never, ever handle work matters outside of work hours. I won't even know about it until next day. I always said that I'd rather get fired than take work home, but I was never even asked.
honkycat 6y ago
> “It looks like you are driving.” I lie to my phone. This is such a shitty, irresponsible thing to do. People die every day from car accidents and this author thinks it is funny.
- clairity 6y ago
  agreed, there is a kia commercial that also disturbingly normalizes this kind of behavior (the driver and her friends are playing with phones, as the narrator dings a cowbell to simulate the driver monitor warning), the implicit message being that you can continue being distracted, because your car will bail you out (it won't). then we try to regulate speed as a poor, misdirected proxy for accidents to ameliorate ourselves, because most folks don't really want to decontaminate the driving environment to be as dstraction-free as possible, which would actually reduce accidents and save lives.
- qzervaas 6y ago
  The author is painting a picture of behaviour that a large number of people engage in. Separately, when I read this paragraph, it prompted me to check my “DND while driving” settings, which for some reason were no longer enabled. Authors can write about controversial / bad things.
- nicbou 6y ago
  This is disturbingly common. As a motorcyclist, I sit a little above most drivers, and I also have to be a little more alert. I catch an alarming number of drivers on their phones. Delivery drivers are the worst offenders. Fortunately, most drivers only touch their phones at red lights, and I honestly don't mind that as much.
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kirstenbirgit 6y ago
I can identify with the way she describes her day. Technology, news, social networks and notifications fill up too much of my day, without much or anything to show for it. It's easy to get lost in your phone. It feels like a drug. I almost can't watch a movie anymore without fiddling with my phone. In the end, as the end of the article suggests, it's all in our heads. We can set limits if we want, and your coworkers will adjust their expectations, if it's a healthy workplace, of course.
hurrdurr2 6y ago
The irony of this story being posted to HN, where the majority of users are in professions likely contributing to the worsening of internet and social media addiction. Read the comments and it's a bunch of folks making fun of the author for "opting in". What a surprise there.
- cortesoft 6y ago
  I don’t think it is irony to want to reexamine the work your industry has done with a critical eye. Learning from your mistakes is not irony.
  - hurrdurr2 6y ago
    I could post the definition of irony here but I'll likely get down-voted to hell and back for "snark" or some such, but I'm pretty sure this situation being ironic and/or as a way to "learn from your mistakes" is not mutually exclusive.
    - cortesoft 6y ago
      I guess it depends on where you find the irony... I think I have a pretty good understanding of what irony is, so maybe you can just explain where you see it in the situation you describe?
      - hurrdurr2 6y ago
        I'm pretty sure my first comment describes where I find the irony.
aaron-santos 6y ago
The author is self-aware enough to realize the issue with all of it, but not enough to know that boundary setting is what comes next? Either they can manage their boundaries an prioritize their life or maintain the status quo. Establishing boundaries requires actual effort. I guess it could be worse. They could be completely unaware which is what makes jokes about this kind of lifestyle land so well[1]. [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_o7qjN3KF8U https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_o7qjN3KF8U
- ketzo 6y ago
  The author (Anne Helen Peterson) actually writes extensively about burnout and work-life balance; I think in this particular article, she’s perhaps overemphasizing her “helplessness” with these boundaries for the sake of the point. Although, like you say, setting and enforcing boundaries is much easier said than done.
tuatoru 6y ago
Lots of blaming the victim here.
- AnIdiotOnTheNet 6y ago
  Agreed. And I can't help but think it is in large part because a lot of the commenters here have made their money implementing and fine tuning the very things the article is complaining about.
- wmeredith 6y ago
  There's plenty to go around. You turn off notifications.
rektide 6y ago
The problem is far beyond this scope, but one thing that made a huge difference for me was Android introducing the (mandatory) idea of "Channels" to notifications. Totally up to the developer how they want to use the feature, but the idea is that there's bunch of different channels & that users can pick & choose from among them gives the user some control, some ability to decide for themselves what is important. I introduced an issue for Web Notifications to add similar: https://github.com/whatwg/notifications/issues/154 https://github.com/whatwg/notifications/issues/154 In general though things are a mess. I'm talking about adding more complexity. Websites used to prompt for adding notifications, which was a pain, but now they put some HTML on screen instead to prompt for notifications, since to be friendly/secure it was decided user-interaction would be required to bring up the prompt for notifications. So websites still have harassing notifications prompts, just on the page instead of in the browser. And cookie and gdpr notifications. And a chat agent-bot pops up to ask if you have any questions. Ugh it's silly. So many affordances that all compete with one another. No standard place where they can reside, & be viewed or ignored as the user would prefer. The whole permissions model on the web has this problem: that permissions are interactive demands, versus something more passive (like living in the awesome-bar).
- TeMPOraL 6y ago
  > In general though things are a mess. That's because we're dealing with malicious actors. They actively fight any attempt to make things better. > Websites used to prompt for adding notifications, which was a pain, but now they put some HTML on screen instead to prompt for notifications, since to be friendly/secure it was decided user-interaction would be required to bring up the prompt for notifications. The popups for adding notifications have an additional reason for being: it's because if you deny the request that's displayed by the browser/system API, the site can't ask you again. Meanwhile, if you deny their in-site/in-app popup, they get to try again. And again. And again. > So websites still have harassing notifications prompts, just on the page instead of in the browser. That's because they want to harass you. That's the whole point. And that's why I call these actors malicious. > And cookie and gdpr notifications. These are another cases in point. The way cookie laws and GDPR are structured, if you're not doing anything shady or malicious, you don't have to show any popup! You only need the popup if you really badly want to do something most of your users would prefer you don't. The problem boils down to: most sites and apps you encounter want to abuse you in one way or another (most commonly, funnel you into a deal that's good for them but not necessarily for you, learn everything they can about you and pass it on to third parties, and/or shove ads in your face). This is not solvable at a protocol, or web standard level. It's, unfortunately, a cat and mouse game.
crazygringo 6y ago
The thing that bugs me constantly is that my #1 technology wish is that dismissing a notification on one device would automatically dismiss it on all of them. I legitimately want notifications of calendar events, missed calls, and messages on whatever screen I'm looking at now -- my desktop, my laptop, my watch, and my phone vibrating in my pocket for when I'm not looking at anything. But once I get the message -- once I swipe left on my phone, hit "close" on my computer, or whatever, I want them all to disappear. Instead, I've got to swipe/close on every damn device. Regularly when I look at a new device, the first thing I need to do is remove notifications I've already seen. Sometimes I have to click into an app and navigate to notifications just to get the red dot to also disappear. Sometimes I have to delete an e-mail notification as well. My desperate wish: there should be a standard across iOS, Android, SMS, dektop OS's, and e-mail to include a notification UUID with every notification, a standardized message format (user -> server) that means "dismiss everwhere", and yet another standardized message format (server -> device) that means "dimiss previous notification". Android and iOS can build it into thier OS, and Gmail, Exchange and other e-mail providers can similarly build support for it (automatically mark the e-mail as read and archive it). Worst-case scenario, if your e-mail provider doesn't support it, you sometimes get an extra e-mail you filter out. (Or servers only bother sending the "remove existing notification" to e-mail domains that contain a flag advertising they support it.) Any reason this wouldn't work? Or that it wouldn't make all our lives hugely better?
- nobody9999 6y ago
  >I look at a new device, the first thing I need to do is remove notifications I've already seen. Sometimes I have to click into an app and navigate to notifications just to get the red dot to also disappear. Sometimes I have to delete an e-mail notification as well. That's weird. Is it really that difficult on IOS? I'm not being snarky or sarcastic, but as I don't use Apple gear, I had no idea. On my mobile device, I just swipe down to pull up all notifications, then pull them up a bit (if necessary) to reveal a 'clear all' option, and they're all gone, both on-screen and in the status bar. As for sharing state between all devices, that's more complicated. I guess it would be nice, but I'm not sure I want to give whatever application that performs such actions that much access into my life. Especially if it was something controlled "in the cloud" (read: On someone else's servers). Even more so if it was owned/controlled by the user data Mafia (Google, FB, Apple, etc.)
dredmorbius 6y ago
The author, Anne Helen Petersen, has published a book, Can't Even, on Millennial burnout. I ran across this from a recent NPR interview: https://www.npr.org/2020/09/19/914715440/helen-peterson-talks-millennial-burnout https://www.npr.org/2020/09/19/914715440/helen-peterson-talk... She's been making the rounds on podcasts, listening to a few of the longer-form interviews gives some depth to the story. This specific article may not be the best introduction, though it definitely illustrates one element of the problem. As with many essay-to-book expansions, there's aa succinct poetry to the original piece: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/mille... Discussed at the time on HN: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=18832627 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=18832627
tmaly 6y ago
I tend to use phones that let me turn off all the notifications from a central part. I only check email a few times a day. Time and focus are too valuable to be wasted on social media and distractions.

64 points by elorant 6y ago

Yes it was much better in the old days when I used to work at Sunshine Desserts with those unbelievable idiots and had to brown nose C.J about what a genius he was, and then later when I had that great career swilling pigs until my back gave out. Back then, Work was an inescapable paradise.

bpiche 6y ago
DFW would be proud
- AnimalMuppet 6y ago
  DFW? David Foster Wallace? Division of Fish and Wildlife? Or the airport?
  - j4nt4b 6y ago
    Is this a serious question?
    - AnimalMuppet 6y ago
      Yes. What is the DFW being referred to?
      - samatman 6y ago
        When you list three acronym expansions, and two are incapable of feeling pride, you're not actually serious.
        AnimalMuppet 6y ago
        David Foster Wallace is pretty obscure, though, at least to me. I know it's the only human I gave, but I had no confidence that it was actually the right answer. Still don't, for that matter. [Edit: I was also trying to point out the ridiculousness of blasting out those initials and expecting that everyone would understand what they were supposed to represent.]
easytiger 6y ago
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fall_and_Rise_of_Reginald_Perrin https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fall_and_Rise_of_Reginal... ?
- bryanrasmussen 6y ago
  Yes, one of my favorites about the wonderful world of work.

the-dude 6y ago

Being financially independent is a choice.

bboygravity 6y ago
Not explaining yourself is also a choice.
sithlord 6y ago
Maybe for the top 10% (maybe even less) of workers.
outworlder 6y ago
This is a very privileged statement. For upper middle class with no issues whatsoever (health or otherwise), maybe with meticulous planning, one could reach financial independence in a decade, and that's a massive stretch. It's still a decade slaving away. EDIT: oh, and that only allows you to be financially independent at the same spending levels (hilariously minimal) that you have held so far. For anyone who doesn't have surplus income even after dropping down to the very basic necessities, it's not a choice at all.
coliveira 6y ago
If you inherited money, it is not a choice. If you have to work for several years until you get the FI, it is not a choice either, since many people don't have the health, technical ability, or environmental conditions to do it.
- dredmorbius 6y ago
  The philosopher Diogenes was eating bread and lentils for supper. He was seen by the philosopher Aristippus, who lived comfortably by flattering the king. Said Aristippus, "If you would learn to be subservient to the king you would not have to live on lentils." Diogenes replied, "Learn to live on lentils and you will not have to be subservient to the king". There are trade-offs. The possibility may exist.
FranzFerdiNaN 6y ago

gitpusher 6y ago

There are real problems here. But I can't see past the author's terrible personal habits that magnify every single one of them. Nobody forced them to: - start their day by reviewing COVID numbers - allow push-notifications from "news" apps - listen to NPR while showering - generally allow social media to dictate their mood/schedule All of these habits are as easy to change as they are damaging. Edit to add: In no way did I mean to belittle those who are afflicted by social media / news addiction. It's a very real problem, and such people deserve help and guidance to lessen their suffering.

outworlder 6y ago
> But I can't see past the author's terrible personal habits that magnify every single one of them. Keep in mind that this may or may not be an accurate reflection of the author's personal habits. We have no indications that this is true, that each one of these actions is not exaggerated, or that they even happened in the same day. Or even, more likely, that these are actually the habits of a fictional person that's trying to represent a huge fraction of the population. It could even be a form of criticism. We do know that there are people sharing similar routines.
- gitpusher 6y ago
  Sure, she likely exaggerated things for narrative effect. I sympathize with those who are enslaved to their devices. It's an addiction, and it often correlates with mental health issues. Such people need help and guidance – not sarcastic dismissal. But, like any other addiction, the first step is taking responsibility. Instead of blaming the world for "hacking" your brain and sub-dividing your attention ad infinitum ... Take a step back and figure out what is (and isn't) under your control. Break the cycle. Have the courage to reject things that aren't serving you.
  - ryandrake 6y ago
    Part of the solution is just turning off notifications. Half of what the author described is apps interrupting what she was doing, demanding her attention. All smartphones provide the option to turn off these interruptions and badges. Just do it and never look back. I've gone even farther in that I run Do-Not-Disturb mode 24/7, so no notifications of any kind, no texts, even no phone calls. You can take back your attention when it's being stolen. You're totally right about the other half though, it's got to be some kind of addiction. Her compulsion to keep "checking" things online. Checking facebook, checking instagram, checking the news, checking the likes on this, checking messages on that, checking Slack, checking E-mail, even checking her frequent flyer mile count (WTF?). What is all this checking? What on earth is so important that you keep needing to poll for status updates? This behavior seems to be beyond what one could rationally explain and I agree with you that some professional help and guidance is probably in order!

jpm_sd 6y ago

Best part IMO is the notion of LARPing your job on Slack, which is a reference to this 2015 piece https://www.theawl.com/2015/04/are-you-just-larping-your-job/ https://www.theawl.com/2015/04/are-you-just-larping-your-job...

hn_throwaway_99 6y ago

Didn't read much beyond the title and opening paragraph, but I'll just throw out there: for me, work is most definitely not an inescapable hellhole. I enjoy my job very much, and feel very fortunate that I found a job that I like. Most tech professionals are in the extremely enviable position that if they hate their job, they have the opportunity to switch. I have been in jobs in the past where I dreaded going to work every day. In hindsight, the fault was my own; there is no reason I should have stayed in a job that was a bad fit for me as long as I did. I realize, and am grateful, that I can say this when many workers don't have this luxury, but also, many DO have this luxury and don't take advantage of it, or they're not willing to realize the problem is with specific things within their control to fix.

TurkishPoptart 6y ago

>I go on a walk. I get interrupted once, twice, 15 times by one of my group texts. Here's a problem. Walk/exercise WIHTOUT devices.

pixl97 6y ago
Like ones that help track how much you walk, your heart rate, your blood sugar, or other functions? Any other good advice?

vorpalhex 6y ago

I literally couldn't come up with a better example of False Dilemma fallacy: > Moving to the woods and going full Thoreau, for most of us, is simply not an option. The only long-term fix is making the background into foreground: calling out the exact ways digital technologies have colonized our lives, aggravating and expanding our burnout in the name of efficiency. Technology didn't colonize anything, you invited over an annoying house guest that you refuse to kick out. Turn off your phone and go pet a dog. You'll be better for it.

selestify 6y ago
More like, the house guest is a sweet talker who cajoles you into letting them stay every time despite them not doing much for you in return. Let’s not pretend like technology isn’t vigorously A/B testing its way into being as psychologically addicting as possible.
- modeless 6y ago
  To me this analogy just underscores the absurdity of blaming the houseguest for this situation.
  - TeMPOraL 6y ago
    Why? It's not as if you spontaneously invited the house guest. Your guest arranged it so that you met them, then over time manipulated you into believing they would be a good company. Only thus conditioned, you agreed to have him over. And that's why I consider most advertising a malicious act.
- Swizec 6y ago
  Like a vampire, needs to be invited in, won’t leave. Only solution is to aggressively deny all push notification requests
  - SOLAR_FIELDS 6y ago
    As an example of how this can be used maliciously I will put forth Grubhub. Anytime you request a delivery, they ask for push notifications, ostensibly such that they can alert you to the status of your delivery. But then they start to push advertisements after. Not directly after, mind you, but a week or two or even more after you got your delivery. One cat-and-mouse solution here might be the “know your location” notifier that iOS uses - allow push notifications only for today.

hikerclimber 6y ago

sounds about right... I wish technology never existed... created more problems than it is worth...

xnyan 6y ago

As a software developer I am absolutely in a privileged position that allows me to have this freedom, but I simply don’t accept jobs that send constant notifications, require me to be online and available all the time, constant after hours work, etc. etc. I make a little bit less money for that privilege, but I work a very nice schedule and have almost no job stress. It’s been one of the best decisions of my life, and I highly recommend thinking about your employer and what role they have in your happiness. I also have almost no notifications on my phone of any kind, text messages from my partner and friends is pretty much it. You may think you need notifications but you maybe surprised how little it impacts your life (expect less stress) not to have them.

mellowdream 6y ago
What kind of work do you do? I've heard nice things about working for the government (in terms of QOL, anyway), though of course the work is nothing sexy.
- nicbou 6y ago
  Every job I've had was like that person describes. I never, ever handle work matters outside of work hours. I won't even know about it until next day. I always said that I'd rather get fired than take work home, but I was never even asked.

honkycat 6y ago

> “It looks like you are driving.” I lie to my phone. This is such a shitty, irresponsible thing to do. People die every day from car accidents and this author thinks it is funny.

clairity 6y ago
agreed, there is a kia commercial that also disturbingly normalizes this kind of behavior (the driver and her friends are playing with phones, as the narrator dings a cowbell to simulate the driver monitor warning), the implicit message being that you can continue being distracted, because your car will bail you out (it won't). then we try to regulate speed as a poor, misdirected proxy for accidents to ameliorate ourselves, because most folks don't really want to decontaminate the driving environment to be as dstraction-free as possible, which would actually reduce accidents and save lives.
qzervaas 6y ago
The author is painting a picture of behaviour that a large number of people engage in. Separately, when I read this paragraph, it prompted me to check my “DND while driving” settings, which for some reason were no longer enabled. Authors can write about controversial / bad things.
nicbou 6y ago
This is disturbingly common. As a motorcyclist, I sit a little above most drivers, and I also have to be a little more alert. I catch an alarming number of drivers on their phones. Delivery drivers are the worst offenders. Fortunately, most drivers only touch their phones at red lights, and I honestly don't mind that as much.

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kirstenbirgit 6y ago

I can identify with the way she describes her day. Technology, news, social networks and notifications fill up too much of my day, without much or anything to show for it. It's easy to get lost in your phone. It feels like a drug. I almost can't watch a movie anymore without fiddling with my phone. In the end, as the end of the article suggests, it's all in our heads. We can set limits if we want, and your coworkers will adjust their expectations, if it's a healthy workplace, of course.

hurrdurr2 6y ago

The irony of this story being posted to HN, where the majority of users are in professions likely contributing to the worsening of internet and social media addiction. Read the comments and it's a bunch of folks making fun of the author for "opting in". What a surprise there.

cortesoft 6y ago
I don’t think it is irony to want to reexamine the work your industry has done with a critical eye. Learning from your mistakes is not irony.
- hurrdurr2 6y ago
  I could post the definition of irony here but I'll likely get down-voted to hell and back for "snark" or some such, but I'm pretty sure this situation being ironic and/or as a way to "learn from your mistakes" is not mutually exclusive.
  - cortesoft 6y ago
    I guess it depends on where you find the irony... I think I have a pretty good understanding of what irony is, so maybe you can just explain where you see it in the situation you describe?
    - hurrdurr2 6y ago
      I'm pretty sure my first comment describes where I find the irony.

aaron-santos 6y ago

The author is self-aware enough to realize the issue with all of it, but not enough to know that boundary setting is what comes next? Either they can manage their boundaries an prioritize their life or maintain the status quo. Establishing boundaries requires actual effort. I guess it could be worse. They could be completely unaware which is what makes jokes about this kind of lifestyle land so well[1]. [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_o7qjN3KF8U https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_o7qjN3KF8U

ketzo 6y ago
The author (Anne Helen Peterson) actually writes extensively about burnout and work-life balance; I think in this particular article, she’s perhaps overemphasizing her “helplessness” with these boundaries for the sake of the point. Although, like you say, setting and enforcing boundaries is much easier said than done.

tuatoru 6y ago

Lots of blaming the victim here.

AnIdiotOnTheNet 6y ago
Agreed. And I can't help but think it is in large part because a lot of the commenters here have made their money implementing and fine tuning the very things the article is complaining about.
wmeredith 6y ago
There's plenty to go around. You turn off notifications.

rektide 6y ago

The problem is far beyond this scope, but one thing that made a huge difference for me was Android introducing the (mandatory) idea of "Channels" to notifications. Totally up to the developer how they want to use the feature, but the idea is that there's bunch of different channels & that users can pick & choose from among them gives the user some control, some ability to decide for themselves what is important. I introduced an issue for Web Notifications to add similar: https://github.com/whatwg/notifications/issues/154 https://github.com/whatwg/notifications/issues/154 In general though things are a mess. I'm talking about adding more complexity. Websites used to prompt for adding notifications, which was a pain, but now they put some HTML on screen instead to prompt for notifications, since to be friendly/secure it was decided user-interaction would be required to bring up the prompt for notifications. So websites still have harassing notifications prompts, just on the page instead of in the browser. And cookie and gdpr notifications. And a chat agent-bot pops up to ask if you have any questions. Ugh it's silly. So many affordances that all compete with one another. No standard place where they can reside, & be viewed or ignored as the user would prefer. The whole permissions model on the web has this problem: that permissions are interactive demands, versus something more passive (like living in the awesome-bar).

TeMPOraL 6y ago
> In general though things are a mess. That's because we're dealing with malicious actors. They actively fight any attempt to make things better. > Websites used to prompt for adding notifications, which was a pain, but now they put some HTML on screen instead to prompt for notifications, since to be friendly/secure it was decided user-interaction would be required to bring up the prompt for notifications. The popups for adding notifications have an additional reason for being: it's because if you deny the request that's displayed by the browser/system API, the site can't ask you again. Meanwhile, if you deny their in-site/in-app popup, they get to try again. And again. And again. > So websites still have harassing notifications prompts, just on the page instead of in the browser. That's because they want to harass you. That's the whole point. And that's why I call these actors malicious. > And cookie and gdpr notifications. These are another cases in point. The way cookie laws and GDPR are structured, if you're not doing anything shady or malicious, you don't have to show any popup! You only need the popup if you really badly want to do something most of your users would prefer you don't. The problem boils down to: most sites and apps you encounter want to abuse you in one way or another (most commonly, funnel you into a deal that's good for them but not necessarily for you, learn everything they can about you and pass it on to third parties, and/or shove ads in your face). This is not solvable at a protocol, or web standard level. It's, unfortunately, a cat and mouse game.

crazygringo 6y ago

The thing that bugs me constantly is that my #1 technology wish is that dismissing a notification on one device would automatically dismiss it on all of them. I legitimately want notifications of calendar events, missed calls, and messages on whatever screen I'm looking at now -- my desktop, my laptop, my watch, and my phone vibrating in my pocket for when I'm not looking at anything. But once I get the message -- once I swipe left on my phone, hit "close" on my computer, or whatever, I want them all to disappear. Instead, I've got to swipe/close on every damn device. Regularly when I look at a new device, the first thing I need to do is remove notifications I've already seen. Sometimes I have to click into an app and navigate to notifications just to get the red dot to also disappear. Sometimes I have to delete an e-mail notification as well. My desperate wish: there should be a standard across iOS, Android, SMS, dektop OS's, and e-mail to include a notification UUID with every notification, a standardized message format (user -> server) that means "dismiss everwhere", and yet another standardized message format (server -> device) that means "dimiss previous notification". Android and iOS can build it into thier OS, and Gmail, Exchange and other e-mail providers can similarly build support for it (automatically mark the e-mail as read and archive it). Worst-case scenario, if your e-mail provider doesn't support it, you sometimes get an extra e-mail you filter out. (Or servers only bother sending the "remove existing notification" to e-mail domains that contain a flag advertising they support it.) Any reason this wouldn't work? Or that it wouldn't make all our lives hugely better?

nobody9999 6y ago
>I look at a new device, the first thing I need to do is remove notifications I've already seen. Sometimes I have to click into an app and navigate to notifications just to get the red dot to also disappear. Sometimes I have to delete an e-mail notification as well. That's weird. Is it really that difficult on IOS? I'm not being snarky or sarcastic, but as I don't use Apple gear, I had no idea. On my mobile device, I just swipe down to pull up all notifications, then pull them up a bit (if necessary) to reveal a 'clear all' option, and they're all gone, both on-screen and in the status bar. As for sharing state between all devices, that's more complicated. I guess it would be nice, but I'm not sure I want to give whatever application that performs such actions that much access into my life. Especially if it was something controlled "in the cloud" (read: On someone else's servers). Even more so if it was owned/controlled by the user data Mafia (Google, FB, Apple, etc.)

dredmorbius 6y ago

The author, Anne Helen Petersen, has published a book, Can't Even, on Millennial burnout. I ran across this from a recent NPR interview: https://www.npr.org/2020/09/19/914715440/helen-peterson-talks-millennial-burnout https://www.npr.org/2020/09/19/914715440/helen-peterson-talk... She's been making the rounds on podcasts, listening to a few of the longer-form interviews gives some depth to the story. This specific article may not be the best introduction, though it definitely illustrates one element of the problem. As with many essay-to-book expansions, there's aa succinct poetry to the original piece: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/mille... Discussed at the time on HN: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=18832627 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=18832627

tmaly 6y ago

I tend to use phones that let me turn off all the notifications from a central part. I only check email a few times a day. Time and focus are too valuable to be wasted on social media and distractions.