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My hunch: His wife likely still wants him to be capable of material success and competition. She just doesn't want him to prioritize those endeavors past some p
by RhysU 6y ago
My hunch: His wife likely still wants him to be capable of material success and competition. She just doesn't want him to prioritize those endeavors past some particular threshold.
Said another way, one's spouse probably finds it attractive that one can get a new job if one loses the current one.
Marriages often go to hell when the husband is out of work and it becomes obvious that he either cannot or will not return to the workforce. That is, when a husband becomes a materially poor individual who does not strive vs his peers.
- UncleMeat 6y agoThis is a nasty generalization at best, and terrible sexism at worst. Why do you think you know my wife better than me?
- RhysU 6y agoWhat's sexist? I appreciate that my wife is employable and tries to do her best in competitions. That's why I said "spouse". The divorce thing is true for men specifically: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0003122416655340 https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/000312241665534... What's nasty? Expecting that people generally value economic capability and competitive ambition in their life partners? And, true, I don't know your wife. That's why I said to each her own. Still, as a thought experiment, quit your job and watch TV for 24 months solid then tell me how it's going.