Exactly. The true issue is what's making you think fuck you in the first place! Not how you say it. And that's the real conversation. If fuck you is what you m

Exactly. The true issue is what's making you think fuck you in the first place! Not how you say it. And that's the real conversation. If fuck you is what you mean, then no amount of dressing will change the fact that you're saying it. And to then act as if you didn't say it just because you didn't use the words fuck you is lying. Being polite is being polite, but that doesn't change the message THAT much unless you actually lie and say something different. And then often the conversation becomes about attitude and respect and language, and not what was actually angering. Ultimately, that's what's stupid and disrespectful. And to then be scanning and policing each other's statements for this? This annoys me to no end on Quora too when people just find novel ways of saying fuck you believing that's what their Be Nice Be Respectful policy means. No, it's not a license to say anything you want so long as you're polite. It's like how a racist thinks to get away with racism. If you're a racist then let's talk about it! Of course, normally they can't, so they've trained themselves to talk different. But it's not a real conversation. It's horseshit. Challenging someone's argument and challenging someone's character are completely different. It doesn't matter how politely you do it if that's what you're doing. And being honest takes courage! It was never truly about other people's feelings. It's "what if I" hurt them. You're about to do that anyway based on the point you're making, if it's a valid point against something they have a stake in. From there, either they're adults who recognize valid points or they're not. That's their court. And if they weren't hurt, then you didn't say it, period. What you meant to say got lost in all the correctness.