I am a people pleaser. Something that helps me in relationships: I try to think of my actions in terms of the effects on the overall system rather than what my

I am a people pleaser. Something that helps me in relationships: I try to think of my actions in terms of the effects on the overall system rather than what my instincts tell me is the "right" thing to do. I can't trust my instincts. I have to analyze situations. And I know my people pleasing instincts are very harmful for all of my relationships - work, friendship, romantic - all of them.