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I am thinking about the bigger picture: what if functioning societies need people pleaser? For the individual it is not so good, but there should be an evolutio
by andi999 6y ago
I am thinking about the bigger picture: what if functioning societies need people pleaser? For the individual it is not so good, but there should be an evolutionary reason why it exists (can also be a side effect of something else important of course).
- Cthulhu_ 6y agoIt's not an absolute though; if you're a people pleaser you say 'yes' too much (and write yourself and your own interests off), but the opposite - rejecting everything - also isn't good. There is a balance, and everyone has to find it, set their own boundaries, manage their own time and energy.
- dxdm 6y agoEvolution does not demand anything of anybody, especially not of self-aware people who can make their own realizations about what's good for themselves. Evolution means adaptation to change; "society" is made up of the people around you, and they will also adapt to changes. Sometimes you need to push back a little to make a comfortable room for yourself between them.