I think this even happens to non-people-pleasers sometimes, when the context makes such a "yes loop" appropriate. For example in sales there are some junctures

I think this even happens to non-people-pleasers sometimes, when the context makes such a "yes loop" appropriate. For example in sales there are some junctures where it's appropriate to bring a big-picture win of a relationship into the "yes zone" so that the "no zone" issues can take a breather. There are some good examples of that in this talk: https://youtu.be/dXZO7mdoTBE https://youtu.be/dXZO7mdoTBE There's also the theory that some people "metabolize" social communication in specific patterns, and different matches of these patterns create different problems or opportunities. The match-up you mention quite often suggests outward actions, or co-decisions that are made after the co-narrowing of possibilities: "Here are five places we can go today. I like them all. Do me a favor and pick your top three?" Accompanied by logical explanations as needed, this can be a really powerful technique. But yeah, also tough stuff... Quite often it's absolutely ok to make a subjective guess at a best outcome, move ahead, and trust that the other party will understand, based on your decision logic and your general willingness to be open.