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5 Tips To Stop People Pleasing (Richard Grannon, edited down to 15 minutes) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aRprOhOaDSo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aRprOhOa
by b0rsuk 6y ago
5 Tips To Stop People Pleasing (Richard Grannon, edited down to 15 minutes)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aRprOhOaDSo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aRprOhOaDSo
8 signs you're too nice for your own good (Psych2Go, 5:45)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lw4M4q2NFw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lw4M4q2NFw
If you're a people pleaser, you attract narcissists like a magnet. If you had narcissists in family, you develop a blind spot to this and are mostly unable to spot it. I STRONGLY recommend the DoctorRamani channel for that, she's a professor specializing in narcissism.
- FooBarBizBazz 6y agoWhen you watch Ramani's videos, you can see everyone around her shrink in fear of getting the "narcissist" label themselves, and offer her deference. It doesn't take a genius to see why she'd invest in a professional identity that lets her do this. In the comments, you can also see that many people identify with her and take pleasure from watching these displays. Meditating on the figure of the Narcissist makes us see the Narcissist in others (so better to resist them), makes us pity the Narcissist (the better to show them contempt, and the better to elevate ourselves), and simultaneously makes us envy the Narcissist's self-seeking (to make us more self-interested ourselves). It turns us partly into Them. So even as an evil god, I am not sure the Narcissist belongs in our pantheon. Best if he is at most a bit player.
- b0rsuk 6y agoWhat exactly are you trying to say?