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A brother of mine gave me an advice on this recently, goes like this: “just say no! After that find a reason why and give it, but first a no without thinking ab

A brother of mine gave me an advice on this recently, goes like this: “just say no! After that find a reason why and give it, but first a no without thinking about it” I liked it

cialowicz 6y ago
It doesn't seem constructive to always say "no" to things. "Yes" is how things get built. If you say "yes" to the right things, and then execute well, you'll go far in life. I'm not arguing against saying "no" to things, but a policy of blanket "no" will leave you pretty unfulfilled.
- skohan 6y ago
  Yeah I have worked with people who are oppositional as a rule: i.e. no matter what is proposed, they will find a flaw or a reason it's a bad idea. These were some of the worst team environments I ever worked in.
- unkulunkulu 6y ago
  This is not an advice to say no, rather how to do it
- chegra 6y ago
  It's easier to change from a "No" to a "Yes" than from a "Yes" to a "No". For instance, someone promise to take part in an event then at the last minute backed out. This is deal breaking. Compared this with saying "No" first then at the last minute indicating you will be able to take part. Saying no first is always better, you can always upgrade. I also agree that things get done by saying "yes". But, there are only 24 hrs in a day, and if you want to accomplish great things you need to focus, that requires saying no a lot. To quote Warren Buffet : "The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything."
- ivanche 6y ago
  If you say "no", you say no to only one option. If you say "yes", you say no to all other options.
atoav 6y ago
I think a "Let me check my schedule" or a "Send me more details" makes more sense in cases where you don't know whether you want to do it. This makes people aware your time is limited, makes them do at least a little bit before they get (or don't get) your time and gives you time to decide with a little bit distance.

A brother of mine gave me an advice on this recently, goes like this: “just say no! After that find a reason why and give it, but first a no without thinking about it” I liked it

cialowicz 6y ago

It doesn't seem constructive to always say "no" to things. "Yes" is how things get built. If you say "yes" to the right things, and then execute well, you'll go far in life. I'm not arguing against saying "no" to things, but a policy of blanket "no" will leave you pretty unfulfilled.

skohan 6y ago
Yeah I have worked with people who are oppositional as a rule: i.e. no matter what is proposed, they will find a flaw or a reason it's a bad idea. These were some of the worst team environments I ever worked in.
unkulunkulu 6y ago
This is not an advice to say no, rather how to do it
chegra 6y ago
It's easier to change from a "No" to a "Yes" than from a "Yes" to a "No". For instance, someone promise to take part in an event then at the last minute backed out. This is deal breaking. Compared this with saying "No" first then at the last minute indicating you will be able to take part. Saying no first is always better, you can always upgrade. I also agree that things get done by saying "yes". But, there are only 24 hrs in a day, and if you want to accomplish great things you need to focus, that requires saying no a lot. To quote Warren Buffet : "The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything."
ivanche 6y ago
If you say "no", you say no to only one option. If you say "yes", you say no to all other options.

atoav 6y ago

I think a "Let me check my schedule" or a "Send me more details" makes more sense in cases where you don't know whether you want to do it. This makes people aware your time is limited, makes them do at least a little bit before they get (or don't get) your time and gives you time to decide with a little bit distance.