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This reminded me of something else he wrote years ago, on people's tendency to compare themselves to others: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10524346 http

This reminded me of something else he wrote years ago, on people's tendency to compare themselves to others: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10524346 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10524346

cperciva 6y ago
Heh, I completely forgot about that. Well, I'm now 39, and still stutter when I'm nervous, but I'm slightly less socially awkward. I'm still diabetic -- no cure for that yet, sadly -- and overweight, but I've been getting more exercise and am somewhat more fit. The biggest change since I wrote that almost 5 years ago, however, is that I found a wonderful woman who somehow manages to put up with me, and we got married in June. :-)
- hobo_mark 6y ago
  Fantastic! Congratulations to you both!
- brian_herman 6y ago
  Wow owning your own company and a wife... Damn I wish I could be you.
- conqrr 6y ago
  Congrats! Any advice on dating for socially awk men who only keep getting constant rejections?
  - joncrane 6y ago
    Write amazing software?
- enjeyw 6y ago
  Thank you for writing that. The "everyone's life has difficulties" is true and often said, but it's such a platitude without someone providing a concrete example.
- axaxs 6y ago
  Congrats bud. As a bit of an introvert, getting married made a significant improvement on my life. I'm much calmer and happier. My then recent occuring panic and anxiety attacks even disappeared. I hope yours is enriched similarly.
- barkingcat 6y ago
  Congrats!
- josmala 6y ago
  Taking care of health is interesting optimization problem. Too bad that almost advice in the topic is given by people trying to change fit bodies to professional bodybuilders. Or from crash course to fastest results with diminishing returns of time invested. My personal experience that not exercising takes more time than exercising. Yes, when I didn't exercise, I lost a lot more time of being tired and sick than I spend when I started to exercise. Here's how I started and lost 10kg in under a year, and more than that in fat but didn't measure fat, but belt holes showed it even when I stagnated in weight. Not diabetic so this is just my personal experience should consider your own body. 1) Lifting adjustable dumbbells at home. Done right before taking shower anyway. So avoiding transition time to exercise and avoiding taking extra shower and drying time can go back to computer right after shower. For beginners maximal muscle growth is 3 exercise sessions per week to have enough recovery between sessions, and single well done set is enough stimulation per muscle, it doesn't grow during exercise but during recover from exercise. I had my exercise sessions on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays to be in constantly in a state that if I eat slightly too much it goes to growing muscle instead of fat. Not because maximizing muscle growth, but just to avoid gaining fat at random times. I just had random bodybuilding dumbbell program moves that I thought would hit every muscle and learned those from a book. I didn't have any body weight exercises since moving my weight would of put strain on joints. The time recommendation for that would be more when learning the moves and doing them slowly and checking correct way of doing them and after a while under 30 minutes per session, but keep minimum 10-15 minutes. Now healthy muscles with about a hour per week after initial investment, and not feeling as tired definitely worth doing. 2) Slowly reducing sugar consumption, and my taste buds eventually adjusted to the change. 3) Random eating habits based on if I'm too concentrated on something to miss a meal. If I eat too little I loose fat, if I eat too much I gain muscle. 4) Once I was healthier I spend some of my thinking time just walking outside thinking the problem before returning to computer for actual implementation. Worked since there was quiet forest path near by. Now my mistake. I upgraded to going gym trying to gain more muscle after my dumbbells became too small. It increased time requirements for each exercise session. After a while I got so busy that "I'll exercise next week", and it stayed that way for a year. And once the habit was broken it was really hard to get back.
  - inglor_cz 6y ago
- thomasfromcdnjs 6y ago
  I think the keto/carnivore community has a decent track record with diabetes -> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LRHir1k9jmE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LRHir1k9jmE Eat animal products, avoid processed/sugars/carbs/grains etc Stick to low FODMAP vegetables, and cook/ferment them when you can.
  - mnw21cam 6y ago
    Depends on the type of diabetes. There are several. If it's type 2, then yes a keto diet, or just plain fasting (Jason Fung seems to be the expert to read up on for this) can help. If it's type 1, then no.
- ahmedalsudani 6y ago
  Congrats to you both!!
- mleonhard 6y ago
  Congrats on finding a life partner and getting married. :) I don't know which kind of diabetes you have. Did you know that some people with type 2 diabetes are cured with weight loss? https://www.webmd.com/diabetes/news/20180917/lose-weight-reverse-type-2-diabetes-why-it-works https://www.webmd.com/diabetes/news/20180917/lose-weight-rev... https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/12549482/what-is-new-nhs-type-2-diabetes-diet/ https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/12549482/what-is-new-nhs-type-... I've tried losing weight many times with varying success. The only time I've had full control over my appetite was after attending a silent meditation course (the free Goenka one). For 5 weeks after the course, I meditated twice a day for about 30 mins each time and resisted eating sweets. I lost 10 lbs. Then I ate some cake at a friend's birthday party and fell off the wagon. Maybe meditation would work for you?

cperciva 6y ago

Heh, I completely forgot about that. Well, I'm now 39, and still stutter when I'm nervous, but I'm slightly less socially awkward. I'm still diabetic -- no cure for that yet, sadly -- and overweight, but I've been getting more exercise and am somewhat more fit. The biggest change since I wrote that almost 5 years ago, however, is that I found a wonderful woman who somehow manages to put up with me, and we got married in June. :-)

hobo_mark 6y ago
Fantastic! Congratulations to you both!
brian_herman 6y ago
Wow owning your own company and a wife... Damn I wish I could be you.
conqrr 6y ago
Congrats! Any advice on dating for socially awk men who only keep getting constant rejections?
- joncrane 6y ago
  Write amazing software?
enjeyw 6y ago
Thank you for writing that. The "everyone's life has difficulties" is true and often said, but it's such a platitude without someone providing a concrete example.
axaxs 6y ago
Congrats bud. As a bit of an introvert, getting married made a significant improvement on my life. I'm much calmer and happier. My then recent occuring panic and anxiety attacks even disappeared. I hope yours is enriched similarly.
barkingcat 6y ago
Congrats!
josmala 6y ago
Taking care of health is interesting optimization problem. Too bad that almost advice in the topic is given by people trying to change fit bodies to professional bodybuilders. Or from crash course to fastest results with diminishing returns of time invested. My personal experience that not exercising takes more time than exercising. Yes, when I didn't exercise, I lost a lot more time of being tired and sick than I spend when I started to exercise. Here's how I started and lost 10kg in under a year, and more than that in fat but didn't measure fat, but belt holes showed it even when I stagnated in weight. Not diabetic so this is just my personal experience should consider your own body. 1) Lifting adjustable dumbbells at home. Done right before taking shower anyway. So avoiding transition time to exercise and avoiding taking extra shower and drying time can go back to computer right after shower. For beginners maximal muscle growth is 3 exercise sessions per week to have enough recovery between sessions, and single well done set is enough stimulation per muscle, it doesn't grow during exercise but during recover from exercise. I had my exercise sessions on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays to be in constantly in a state that if I eat slightly too much it goes to growing muscle instead of fat. Not because maximizing muscle growth, but just to avoid gaining fat at random times. I just had random bodybuilding dumbbell program moves that I thought would hit every muscle and learned those from a book. I didn't have any body weight exercises since moving my weight would of put strain on joints. The time recommendation for that would be more when learning the moves and doing them slowly and checking correct way of doing them and after a while under 30 minutes per session, but keep minimum 10-15 minutes. Now healthy muscles with about a hour per week after initial investment, and not feeling as tired definitely worth doing. 2) Slowly reducing sugar consumption, and my taste buds eventually adjusted to the change. 3) Random eating habits based on if I'm too concentrated on something to miss a meal. If I eat too little I loose fat, if I eat too much I gain muscle. 4) Once I was healthier I spend some of my thinking time just walking outside thinking the problem before returning to computer for actual implementation. Worked since there was quiet forest path near by. Now my mistake. I upgraded to going gym trying to gain more muscle after my dumbbells became too small. It increased time requirements for each exercise session. After a while I got so busy that "I'll exercise next week", and it stayed that way for a year. And once the habit was broken it was really hard to get back.
- inglor_cz 6y ago
thomasfromcdnjs 6y ago
I think the keto/carnivore community has a decent track record with diabetes -> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LRHir1k9jmE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LRHir1k9jmE Eat animal products, avoid processed/sugars/carbs/grains etc Stick to low FODMAP vegetables, and cook/ferment them when you can.
- mnw21cam 6y ago
  Depends on the type of diabetes. There are several. If it's type 2, then yes a keto diet, or just plain fasting (Jason Fung seems to be the expert to read up on for this) can help. If it's type 1, then no.
ahmedalsudani 6y ago
Congrats to you both!!
mleonhard 6y ago
Congrats on finding a life partner and getting married. :) I don't know which kind of diabetes you have. Did you know that some people with type 2 diabetes are cured with weight loss? https://www.webmd.com/diabetes/news/20180917/lose-weight-reverse-type-2-diabetes-why-it-works https://www.webmd.com/diabetes/news/20180917/lose-weight-rev... https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/12549482/what-is-new-nhs-type-2-diabetes-diet/ https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/12549482/what-is-new-nhs-type-... I've tried losing weight many times with varying success. The only time I've had full control over my appetite was after attending a silent meditation course (the free Goenka one). For 5 weeks after the course, I meditated twice a day for about 30 mins each time and resisted eating sweets. I lost 10 lbs. Then I ate some cake at a friend's birthday party and fell off the wagon. Maybe meditation would work for you?