I live with my girlfriend here, and my router lists 14 devices connected to it, from phone and laptops to TV and Google home to one monstrosity of an IR blaster

I live with my girlfriend here, and my router lists 14 devices connected to it, from phone and laptops to TV and Google home to one monstrosity of an IR blaster due to lack of "smartness" of the A/C. Some stuff are even programmed with IFTTT, some with NFC tags tapped by either of our phones, and many devices listen to magic packets on LAN. I enjoy the convenience of being able to control pretty much everything from bed, with just voice, but I can't get rid of the dystopian feeling that I'm just a "user" of it, but not in control of it.