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Can you please expand on that advice? What should we be paying attention to?

by gautamcgoel 6y ago

mixologic 6y ago
Your teeth. Pay attention to your dental health.
- jasonv 6y ago
  I had mediocre dental care for most of my life. Not bad, but I never liked it. I got my first crown, was supposed to get two. It was traumatic. It didn’t feel good. I was depressed. I found a dentist recommendation. Visited him, he looked at my teeth and said while it all met “the standard of care”, some of the old work would eventually need to be replaced, and the crown fit could be improved, and the other crown I needed could be replaced with an alternate procedure. I got a good feeling from him. I spent the next 3 months having him re-do everything in my mouth. i was terrified and uncomfortable but I just went into it headlong. I was a bit flu$h, but it didn’t actually cost a lot. It made all the difference in the world. My bite felt better. My teeth felt good. The tooth sensitivity to temperature vanished. I never think about My teeth anymore. They work, they are comfortable. I think of myself as someone who is scared of dental visits. He cured me of that. I plan and attend each visit diligently. I have a new dentist now.. I moved. I found someone I like. Understanding that my dental dissatisfaction was rooted in work that “met the standard of care” but which wasn’t satisfactory with each bite and sip I took was transformational. I also floss diligently.
  - ethbr0 6y ago
    I asked a dental hygienist about this: "Why is there a focus on relaxed, spa-like dental practices? Who are these people who are scared of the dentist?" She said it absolutely came down to past experiences. Apparently there are some really shitty dentists out there, in the sense of causing unpleasant experiences. If you didn't get one of those as a child, you have no problem with visiting the dentist. If you did, dentists terrify you. I never really thought about it that way before.
    - jasonv 6y ago
      Yes, I had a rough-handed dentist as a child, and in one year, had to have a bunch of cavities filled. It felt like a horror show to me. I don't care about the facilities themselves... but when looking for a dentist now I've put it out directly that I have a past fear of dentistry, and I've been assigned a hygienist who has a more careful bedside manner than others. It says right on my chart that I'm anxious about dentistry. The newest doc I've had to switch to was diligent about noting it and talking me through, acknowledging where I was coming from. Metal on teeth is also a thing for me. I'm pretty much over the hump now, but it was an effort to work through it. A few good offices who where explicit in their response to my feelings did wonders, too.
- Lammy 6y ago
  And sunscreen. Taking care of your skin (especially your face!) is one of the easiest passive ways to help yourself age gracefully.
- quickthrower2 6y ago
  Take care of the big 3: Dental, mental and genital.
itisit 6y ago
You're already getting the hang of it.
snomad 6y ago
I like Dan Millman's lesson in a Peaceful Warrior What time is it? Now Where are you? Here
- nullsense 6y ago
  I really like the scene in the movie where Socrates throws him off the bridge and Dan flips out and Socrates simply responds something along the lines "but while you were flying through the air your mind was completely focused on one thing. You even had a name for it: arghhhh!" Man that book was epic when I discovered it all those years ago. Especially since I had a habit of visiting gas stations at odd hours of the night too.
m463 6y ago
be conscious. be mindful.
chadcmulligan 6y ago
Coincidence - You weren't paying attention to the other half of what was going on - stand on Zanzibar
AznHisoka 6y ago
Just don't think about work, startups, money, etc when you are eating dinner with your family, or spending time with them. Harder than it sounds.
- rlonn 6y ago
  I had kids late in life, which I think has some advantages. One is that you've learnt that nothing lasts and it's important to be present in the moment, because it doesn't come back.
  - MrDresden 6y ago
    May I be so bold and ask what constitutes 'late in life' for you?
quickthrower2 6y ago
Whatever advice an older person can give it is problematic in that it is only one point of view, and might be wholly inapplicable to your life given the fact you are a different person raised in different circumstances. You’d be hard pressed to find a counsellor having heard you rant for 100 hours give you advice. They only give you tools. I’m older and I realise myself that I need advice, I’m not in need of giving it.

Can you please expand on that advice? What should we be paying attention to?

mixologic 6y ago

Your teeth. Pay attention to your dental health.

jasonv 6y ago
I had mediocre dental care for most of my life. Not bad, but I never liked it. I got my first crown, was supposed to get two. It was traumatic. It didn’t feel good. I was depressed. I found a dentist recommendation. Visited him, he looked at my teeth and said while it all met “the standard of care”, some of the old work would eventually need to be replaced, and the crown fit could be improved, and the other crown I needed could be replaced with an alternate procedure. I got a good feeling from him. I spent the next 3 months having him re-do everything in my mouth. i was terrified and uncomfortable but I just went into it headlong. I was a bit flu$h, but it didn’t actually cost a lot. It made all the difference in the world. My bite felt better. My teeth felt good. The tooth sensitivity to temperature vanished. I never think about My teeth anymore. They work, they are comfortable. I think of myself as someone who is scared of dental visits. He cured me of that. I plan and attend each visit diligently. I have a new dentist now.. I moved. I found someone I like. Understanding that my dental dissatisfaction was rooted in work that “met the standard of care” but which wasn’t satisfactory with each bite and sip I took was transformational. I also floss diligently.
- ethbr0 6y ago
  I asked a dental hygienist about this: "Why is there a focus on relaxed, spa-like dental practices? Who are these people who are scared of the dentist?" She said it absolutely came down to past experiences. Apparently there are some really shitty dentists out there, in the sense of causing unpleasant experiences. If you didn't get one of those as a child, you have no problem with visiting the dentist. If you did, dentists terrify you. I never really thought about it that way before.
  - jasonv 6y ago
    Yes, I had a rough-handed dentist as a child, and in one year, had to have a bunch of cavities filled. It felt like a horror show to me. I don't care about the facilities themselves... but when looking for a dentist now I've put it out directly that I have a past fear of dentistry, and I've been assigned a hygienist who has a more careful bedside manner than others. It says right on my chart that I'm anxious about dentistry. The newest doc I've had to switch to was diligent about noting it and talking me through, acknowledging where I was coming from. Metal on teeth is also a thing for me. I'm pretty much over the hump now, but it was an effort to work through it. A few good offices who where explicit in their response to my feelings did wonders, too.
Lammy 6y ago
And sunscreen. Taking care of your skin (especially your face!) is one of the easiest passive ways to help yourself age gracefully.
quickthrower2 6y ago
Take care of the big 3: Dental, mental and genital.

itisit 6y ago

You're already getting the hang of it.

snomad 6y ago

I like Dan Millman's lesson in a Peaceful Warrior What time is it? Now Where are you? Here

nullsense 6y ago
I really like the scene in the movie where Socrates throws him off the bridge and Dan flips out and Socrates simply responds something along the lines "but while you were flying through the air your mind was completely focused on one thing. You even had a name for it: arghhhh!" Man that book was epic when I discovered it all those years ago. Especially since I had a habit of visiting gas stations at odd hours of the night too.

m463 6y ago

be conscious. be mindful.

chadcmulligan 6y ago

Coincidence - You weren't paying attention to the other half of what was going on - stand on Zanzibar

AznHisoka 6y ago

Just don't think about work, startups, money, etc when you are eating dinner with your family, or spending time with them. Harder than it sounds.

rlonn 6y ago
I had kids late in life, which I think has some advantages. One is that you've learnt that nothing lasts and it's important to be present in the moment, because it doesn't come back.
- MrDresden 6y ago
  May I be so bold and ask what constitutes 'late in life' for you?

quickthrower2 6y ago

Whatever advice an older person can give it is problematic in that it is only one point of view, and might be wholly inapplicable to your life given the fact you are a different person raised in different circumstances. You’d be hard pressed to find a counsellor having heard you rant for 100 hours give you advice. They only give you tools. I’m older and I realise myself that I need advice, I’m not in need of giving it.