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> Once those younger people swallow their pride and move home ... there really isn't anything pulling them back. I just left a remote oriented(Major infrastruc

by tjr225 6y ago

> Once those younger people swallow their pride and move home ... there really isn't anything pulling them back. I just left a remote oriented(Major infrastructure automation startup) to work for a company in a HCOL area. Just completed the 2200 mile trek back from “home” with the pets and the family on Monday. Anecdotal but the prospect of raising my kid in the middle of nowhere back “home” was not appealing. If I lost my remote gig I would have to take a 50% pay cut to hopefully find a job at one of a few employers locally- or pray I could get another remote gig in a very competitive job market. Better nature, better job market and higher pay were a deciding factor. Just saying there are plenty of things that might pull a young person like myself and my partner back other than “pride.”

Apocryphon 6y ago
Sure, but your rare case is statistically atypical at the moment, and a reversal of the trend requires a major recovery that’s still very TBD.
- tjr225 6y ago
  I tried to acknowledge that by pointing out that it was an anecdote. My point was mostly that it is condescending and short sighted to think that young people’s decision about where to live boils down to pride.
  - bsder 6y ago
    > My point was mostly that it is condescending and short sighted to think that young people’s decision about where to live boils down to pride And I would point out that it completely ignores reality to think that it doesn't. For better or worse in the US, a single male living with his parents at age 25 or above will generally be regarded as a "failure". You can claim otherwise, but the dating pool disagrees with you strongly. However, I will concede that your situation (under 30 with a child but still in a place like the Bay Area) was not really what I was thinking about. That's kind of a minority for most high tech/high-COL areas which are renowned for having a highly skewed male/female ratio.
    - tjr225 6y ago
      Again...that’s exactly my point; when you make blanket statements about broad groups of people you always end up being wrong in a lot of cases...I’m not the only young person who gladly chooses to live in a big city- not by a long shot.

by tjr225 6y ago

Apocryphon 6y ago

Sure, but your rare case is statistically atypical at the moment, and a reversal of the trend requires a major recovery that’s still very TBD.

tjr225 6y ago
I tried to acknowledge that by pointing out that it was an anecdote. My point was mostly that it is condescending and short sighted to think that young people’s decision about where to live boils down to pride.
- bsder 6y ago
  > My point was mostly that it is condescending and short sighted to think that young people’s decision about where to live boils down to pride And I would point out that it completely ignores reality to think that it doesn't. For better or worse in the US, a single male living with his parents at age 25 or above will generally be regarded as a "failure". You can claim otherwise, but the dating pool disagrees with you strongly. However, I will concede that your situation (under 30 with a child but still in a place like the Bay Area) was not really what I was thinking about. That's kind of a minority for most high tech/high-COL areas which are renowned for having a highly skewed male/female ratio.
  - tjr225 6y ago
    Again...that’s exactly my point; when you make blanket statements about broad groups of people you always end up being wrong in a lot of cases...I’m not the only young person who gladly chooses to live in a big city- not by a long shot.