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Force yourself to not say anything until you have consciously approved of what you want to say. So instead of saying something like normal, run it through your

Force yourself to not say anything until you have consciously approved of what you want to say. So instead of saying something like normal, run it through your head, and decide if you really want to vocalize it. It takes about a second. Swearing for no good reason is one of the few things that tanks my respect for someone. The longer I go without hearing someone swear, the more I look up to them.

jelliclesfarm 6y ago
I am not attempting this experiment to seem ‘more respectable’. I am doing it for myself and not for others. It’s a double edged sword. When I swear, I also ‘see’ a lot of colour(literal colour) and my use of language becomes more creative. Because ‘swear words’ to me..because English isn’t my native language...is creative. I feel like I am employing a foreign language and it’s words as shorthand where I can pack a lot of meaning and associations in one word instead of using 3-4 sentences. I don’t know if native English speakers feel that way. I am also wondering if using swear words as short hand is taking away my ability to explore the richness of English as a language. Or to form longer complex sentences.
- briefcomment 6y ago
  I usually see swearing as a brain short circuit, and as a proxy for a lack of self-confidence or a proxy for violent frustration. I've never heard of it explained like you have though, so maybe it serves you a unique purpose. If you feel like it's helping you, maybe it's not so bad.
  - jelliclesfarm 6y ago
    there is no 'depth' to the english language. it feels so flat. the punctuation i can use and be sure that it would be understood is the swear word. to me. there is a certain poverty of emotions. i have so many more tones, stories, easter eggs and hand gestures to convey in multiple layers accessible to me w/my language. i dont know the word in my language for 'fuck' either as a swear word or for its literal meaning. i drop the F bomb all the time without giving much thought to it. i would never do that in my language. there is no need. but w/ english..i would be bereft of linguistic and emotional epaulets without my arsenal of swear words. also: even poetry feels different in english. it seems like everyone is complaining or sad all the time w/poetry. musical lyrics..especially w/popular music...are not helpful either
    - yardshop 6y ago
      What is your native language? A language doesn't specify hand gestures, but cultures opviously have other forms of communication accompanying their spoken language. There's also not one english, there are numerous regional and historical forms, and the depth you are missing may be found in people's local dialects and vocabularies. Words are just sounds with an agreed-upon meaning and they all basically come down to expressing the same human ideas no matter what group of sounds one is using to do so. But without a specific comparison, it's hard to know what expectations you have.
      - jelliclesfarm 6y ago
        Tamil. It’s a language from the south of India. The language itself doesn’t have lot of hand gestures. I learnt classical Indian dance for many years from childhood. Subconsciously I would use my hands to punctuate when I speak in my language. It doesn’t happen when I speak English. I am limited to just the spoken word. With English, I am always anxious that I haven’t gotten my point across. So I create longer sentences and find ways draw from popular culture..Altho being updated on that is a chore by itself. Swear words seem to be universal shorthand and timeless with the English language and it gets the point across.

jelliclesfarm 6y ago

I am not attempting this experiment to seem ‘more respectable’. I am doing it for myself and not for others. It’s a double edged sword. When I swear, I also ‘see’ a lot of colour(literal colour) and my use of language becomes more creative. Because ‘swear words’ to me..because English isn’t my native language...is creative. I feel like I am employing a foreign language and it’s words as shorthand where I can pack a lot of meaning and associations in one word instead of using 3-4 sentences. I don’t know if native English speakers feel that way. I am also wondering if using swear words as short hand is taking away my ability to explore the richness of English as a language. Or to form longer complex sentences.

briefcomment 6y ago
I usually see swearing as a brain short circuit, and as a proxy for a lack of self-confidence or a proxy for violent frustration. I've never heard of it explained like you have though, so maybe it serves you a unique purpose. If you feel like it's helping you, maybe it's not so bad.
- jelliclesfarm 6y ago
  there is no 'depth' to the english language. it feels so flat. the punctuation i can use and be sure that it would be understood is the swear word. to me. there is a certain poverty of emotions. i have so many more tones, stories, easter eggs and hand gestures to convey in multiple layers accessible to me w/my language. i dont know the word in my language for 'fuck' either as a swear word or for its literal meaning. i drop the F bomb all the time without giving much thought to it. i would never do that in my language. there is no need. but w/ english..i would be bereft of linguistic and emotional epaulets without my arsenal of swear words. also: even poetry feels different in english. it seems like everyone is complaining or sad all the time w/poetry. musical lyrics..especially w/popular music...are not helpful either
  - yardshop 6y ago
    What is your native language? A language doesn't specify hand gestures, but cultures opviously have other forms of communication accompanying their spoken language. There's also not one english, there are numerous regional and historical forms, and the depth you are missing may be found in people's local dialects and vocabularies. Words are just sounds with an agreed-upon meaning and they all basically come down to expressing the same human ideas no matter what group of sounds one is using to do so. But without a specific comparison, it's hard to know what expectations you have.
    - jelliclesfarm 6y ago
      Tamil. It’s a language from the south of India. The language itself doesn’t have lot of hand gestures. I learnt classical Indian dance for many years from childhood. Subconsciously I would use my hands to punctuate when I speak in my language. It doesn’t happen when I speak English. I am limited to just the spoken word. With English, I am always anxious that I haven’t gotten my point across. So I create longer sentences and find ways draw from popular culture..Altho being updated on that is a chore by itself. Swear words seem to be universal shorthand and timeless with the English language and it gets the point across.