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I think that you are using the wrong metrics. Defining the results achieved by a certain age is a different thing than defining the qualities that you seek to
by Loginid 15y ago
I think that you are using the wrong metrics.
Defining the results achieved by a certain age is a different thing than defining the qualities that you seek to nurture.
By setting results based goals, you are putting your child in a subordinate pass/fail position.
Who are you to define success for your child? It is their life.
By defining some qualities that you would like to nurture in your child, and implementing strategies to help them develop, you would be acting as a supportive participant in their development.
Milestone thinking can be very dangerous in this context.
- poppysan 15y ago"By defining some qualities that you would like to nurture in your child, and implementing strategies to help them develop, you would be acting as a supportive participant in their development." I think that is exactly what I seek to do. The goals are examples, and very loose. As I said before, I would not be disappointed with my child for not reaching them.
- Loginid 15y agoSorry, in trying to be succinct, I came off as harsh. I'm not questioning your motivations. I just think that it is healthier to make statements like 'I want to help my child to realize their creativity' or 'I want to help my child realize their programming potential' than to say that 'I want to help my child to do X by Y years'.
- Loginid 15y agoSorry, in trying to be succinct, I came off as harsh. I'm not questioning your motivations. I just think that it is healthier to make statements like 'I want to help my child to realize their creativity' or 'I want to help my child realize their programming potential' than to say that 'I want to help my child to do X by Y years'.