> If Bob did stress this very strongly with Sue, and Sue was the person in charge of allocating tasks, then yes of course Sue is to blame. Giving people tasks t

> If Bob did stress this very strongly with Sue, and Sue was the person in charge of allocating tasks, then yes of course Sue is to blame. Giving people tasks they can't do is bad. The trouble is if Bob doesn't know he can do it or not. It can be very hard to tell if you're actually confused about something or if you are just making excuses. Sadly, if the latter, there really is only one way to stop making excuses. -------- Note: While I am feeling very distressed these days. I want to reassure y'all that I am not going to stop making excuses. There are too many people who love and care about me dearly whom I know would be devastated.