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My brother-in-law is a plumber. Guess what? All of his buddies are in the trades. My mom was a school teacher. Guess what? All her friends were school teachers.

My brother-in-law is a plumber. Guess what? All of his buddies are in the trades. My mom was a school teacher. Guess what? All her friends were school teachers. When I was a software developer, I ran in circles with a lot of other tech people. Now that I'm in real estate, we hang out with a lot of other real estate agents (especially given that my partner was formerly in real estate and all her closest friends were in the business too). Point being - for a good many people, given well-documented challenges of making adult friends, our work / industry creates a natural social circle. Our best friends from outside those work circles came from when she ran an AirBnB back in the day and met people from all over the world.

hinkley 6y ago
Half of my friends are landscapers. Why? Hobbies and volunteer work. A friend of mine was best friends with someone she sold a piece of crafting equipment to. Showed up and didn't leave for four hours. If all you do is eat, sleep, and drink software, then you aren't going to know anybody outside of software. It's one of the things we mean when we say that doing software as a profession and your main hobby can be harmful. Doing other things doesn't mean you never work on software outside of work. It means you do it when you have other things sorted out.