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> I’ve never really heard anyone say their parents are/were abusive. There are probably many people in your social circle with abusive parents. Just because th

> I’ve never really heard anyone say their parents are/were abusive. There are probably many people in your social circle with abusive parents. Just because they don't talk about it doesn't mean it didn't happen. People tend to keep their skeletons in their closets. Related: Many men would not believe how common sexual assault of women is. A lot of men are like, "I don't know any women who have been assaulted." Really, it's that you don't know any women who have told you that they have been. For many reasons, most women only bring that kind of stuff up around a select trusted set of people, if any. I always try to be mindful when interacting with people that almost everyone has some trauma in their past or some cross to bear. Just because they aren't showing it doesn't mean it isn't there.

bradlys 6y ago
> There are probably many people in your social circle with abusive parents. Just because they don't talk about it doesn't mean it didn't happen. People tend to keep their skeletons in their closets. I've asked directly to a lot of people about their relationship with their parents. My point is more like: They all seem to love their parents. They call them daily or, minimum, weekly. They enjoy their family gatherings and being around their parents overall. If you did the ACE test with the younger crowd in SV's tech sphere, I would really doubt many people with troubled parents would show up. I get a score of 7 on that test and I don't see many 7+'s here. https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/ https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/ If you had shitty parents, you probably wouldn't get into tech here. The people I know with shit parents are not in tech.