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A lot of my friends (and myself) have abusive parents. I seriously consider suicide to be a better option than going home.
by kayodelycaon 6y ago
A lot of my friends (and myself) have abusive parents. I seriously consider suicide to be a better option than going home.
- eurekin 6y agoPlease consider seeking prodessional help. Wish you all the best
- taejo 6y agoOr just continue not putting yourself in dangerous situations.
- jermaustin1 6y agoOr both. There is nothing wrong with therapy.
- kayodelycaon 6y agoAlready have it, but the US does not make this easy. It took me weeks of leaving voicemails that were never returned and then two months to get an actual appointment. My primary care doctor was unable to find anyone suitable in the local hospital network. They wouldn't even return his calls. If you're able to be persistent enough, try looking at Psychology Today. They let you search for therapists and psychiatrists in your area. (Ignore the articles, please ignore the articles.) If you don't have insurance or a lot of money, some providers may still be willing to work with you for a reduced fee. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
- HorizonXP 6y agoI no longer feel like this about my parents now that I live independently and have my own child. They’re wonderful grandparents. But yeah, when I was living with them in my 20s for my Masters? I felt just like you did.
- kayodelycaon 6y agoI'm 34 and bipolar. I'm stable on medication but my dad doesn't believe mental illness exists and attributes every symptom to a lack of moral character... or demon possession. I don't see myself changing how I feel about him any time soon.
- throwanem 6y agoNor should you. It can't help but be a little frustrating, however well-intentioned, when someone without the experience to accurately inform the comment says something like "but he's still your dad", "she's still your mom", et cetera. Bridges burn just as well from either end. And I think it's genuinely difficult for most good or even decent parents, in particular, to imagine how bad bad parents can be.
- narwally 6y ago"She's still your mom." yeah, and these are still the scars from the cigarettes she put out on my thigh. Sometimes bridges are burnt, and sometimes they were never built in the first place. "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb"
- JeremyBanks 6y agoThis is a bad comment and you should delete it.
- kayodelycaon 6y agoI'm willing to give HorizonXP the benefit of the doubt. Devoid of context, my statement isn't all that different from what some young adults would say. Parents or/and their children can mature as they grow older and relationships can heal.
- HorizonXP 6y agoMy father was physically abusive too. But I'm merely providing my own perspective on my own experience. Your perspective on your experience is your own. I would never try to compare or equate.
- dang 6y ago(We detached this subthread from https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=24491868 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=24491868.)