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>When I lack immediate feedback, I begin to doubt myself/my abilities. He believes being conditioned by social media led him to that point, more specifically i
by kurome 6y ago
>When I lack immediate feedback, I begin to doubt myself/my abilities.
He believes being conditioned by social media led him to that point, more specifically immediate-satisfaction instant-result culture.
That is not entirely true in my experience. Feedback is supposed to determine strategy, not your self worth as a person. He has been programmed, by the instant result culture or whatever, into emotionally charged reactions, not an objective response.
I have been working out and I hit a plateau, I should stop this is fruitless > I hit a plateau, I need to try a new workout routine. Not “I will workout for 3 years until I make any judgement.”
I have been blogging for months and nobody cares, I should stop > I have been blogging for months without any results, my current course of action needs adjustment. Not “I will blog for 3 years regardless.”
Reacting - Old habits/conditioning make you react to a situation
Responding - Taking in the situation and moving forward with calculated action.
The 3 year rule replaces his current reaction with another one, when he should be working on responding to situations instead. It takes you further, but will not take you further than if you were to correct that faulty outlook altogether.
- panlana 6y agoThat's a helpful way to frame it. Am I responding or reacting? Thanks!
- hinkley 6y agoI think there's some overlap with fame culture here too. I'm a nobody and I'm sad. If everyone knew me I'd be happy. A finger closes on the monkey's paw; You're famous now, for getting your drunk ass taken down in a restaurant waiting area. Now everybody hates you, and they recognize you while you're grocery shopping. I think the reason why a big fraction of success stories comes from people who built something for themselves first is not just that they have a subject matter expert, or a captive audience (which doesn't hurt!). It's that they know the work is important, even if nobody else knows. I have a project I used to work on where I got wedged on a rapidly shifting API for a dependency. I had grand plans for solving a problem for a niche that is one of my hobbies. Part of getting back into it has been trying to figure out how to be more... selfish. What parts of it would help me, as a tool? Not the bits that would improve my resume (turns out that doesn't motivate me very well), but me personally. Then maybe my friends. Then if I'm still going, the groups that were my original target.