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> I think, as op also insinuates, it is all about acceptance. I second this. From my experience you have to START WITH ACCEPTING the status quo and honestly lo

> I think, as op also insinuates, it is all about acceptance. I second this. From my experience you have to START WITH ACCEPTING the status quo and honestly looking at it without judging or being ashamed. It helps me to tell myself: "This is not terrible. I am alive. I have a job. My body is still working OK." From there FOCUS ON THE DELTA: What can I do today that will bring me into a slightly better position tomorrow. Avoid thinking about the past ("I ate too much today.", "I did not exercise all week."). This is done. No way to change it. Don't set high expectations. You only need to know where you want to be, and that you are going into the right direction. It does not matter much if you arrive there in one week or in five years.

codeisawesome 6y ago
I think the next level of peace and acceptance is unlocked when: - you set the delta of “what can I do today to achieve” to be low enough that it’s actually realistic and not what you wish it was (while still being high enough to actually mean something), and, - if you still fall short, you don’t kill yourself with shame & guilt, recognising that you actually lose more time in that process. Not easy to learn, and not easy to stay in that space. Meditation helps (after a long long time of doing it). (Oh and if you have ADHD - undiagnosed or otherwise - please forgive yourself for it, and forgive yourself each time you get thrown off the rails because of it - yes, even if that is multiple times per hour. Everything else flows from that forgiveness and self acceptance.)