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Maybe find different friends :) Has anyone actually ever taken this advice when receiving it in the context of frustrating social media content? I see people t

by dvtrn 6y ago

Maybe find different friends :) Has anyone actually ever taken this advice when receiving it in the context of frustrating social media content? I see people throwing this advice around a LOT in these discussions and have always tried to find someone who actually went and did it just because someone on the internet said to. Curious how well it worked. It sounds about as useful advice as telling someone to “just” get another job after mildly venting about a rough day at the office (or on zoom, given the state of things here recently), which is something we’ve all done just to decompress I would imagine.

searchableguy 6y ago
I wonder if pay to remove a post model would work well. Moderation costs money and by pay walling the report button, you can insure that only real cases are reported and take action.
- dvtrn 6y ago
  Well there is the "Hide Post" feature, which back when I still even had a FB account I would use with extreme prejudice and can be used free of charge. It was quite helpful before finally making the decision to just leave the platform entirely. Personal curation is a thing, which I think will solve the case for a non-trivial amount of people, if more were intentional and deliberate about it, but it stops short personally of getting 'better' friends. Which...I just think is unhelpful advice unless an individual is truly and consistently harming the friendship with their actions and behaviors.
r00fus 6y ago
Does FB have no controls like Twitter to manage your feed without unfriending? On Twitter I can mute, "see less from X", block, etc.
- dvtrn 6y ago
  It does, actually! You can select to see less from friend, see less of the account that friend shared the post from, or you can 'unfollow' a person entirely, which has the same effect but without formally "unfriending" them, so you see none of their stuff at all, but maintain the network 'connection'. You can also 'snooze' a person for up to 30 days. Problem I noticed with that was once that 30 days is up, the news feed algorithm SEEMINGLY overcorrects and tends to show you nothing BUT posts from that individual with a higher weight against everything else once their snooze period is over. As someone who had a number of friends that posted content that was just annoying and boring (not so much incendiary or vitriolic-although they get snoozed too), I used snooze quite a bit. They're great friends, we just have very different tastes and tolerances for what happens on social media. So I used the tools given to me to see less of it, but maintained the friendship.

by dvtrn 6y ago

searchableguy 6y ago

I wonder if pay to remove a post model would work well. Moderation costs money and by pay walling the report button, you can insure that only real cases are reported and take action.

dvtrn 6y ago
Well there is the "Hide Post" feature, which back when I still even had a FB account I would use with extreme prejudice and can be used free of charge. It was quite helpful before finally making the decision to just leave the platform entirely. Personal curation is a thing, which I think will solve the case for a non-trivial amount of people, if more were intentional and deliberate about it, but it stops short personally of getting 'better' friends. Which...I just think is unhelpful advice unless an individual is truly and consistently harming the friendship with their actions and behaviors.

r00fus 6y ago

Does FB have no controls like Twitter to manage your feed without unfriending? On Twitter I can mute, "see less from X", block, etc.

dvtrn 6y ago
It does, actually! You can select to see less from friend, see less of the account that friend shared the post from, or you can 'unfollow' a person entirely, which has the same effect but without formally "unfriending" them, so you see none of their stuff at all, but maintain the network 'connection'. You can also 'snooze' a person for up to 30 days. Problem I noticed with that was once that 30 days is up, the news feed algorithm SEEMINGLY overcorrects and tends to show you nothing BUT posts from that individual with a higher weight against everything else once their snooze period is over. As someone who had a number of friends that posted content that was just annoying and boring (not so much incendiary or vitriolic-although they get snoozed too), I used snooze quite a bit. They're great friends, we just have very different tastes and tolerances for what happens on social media. So I used the tools given to me to see less of it, but maintained the friendship.