But then you have a situation where either those n people have to know about and opt in to this deal which leaves them wondering what your secrets are and just

But then you have a situation where either those n people have to know about and opt in to this deal which leaves them wondering what your secrets are and just knowing that people were thinking about it would drive my crazy or you have a situation where people get an email totally out of the blue saying that someone they know is dead and click this link to find out their secrets. I would mark that as spam and delete it instantly. Some people would just click cos they are like what the hell is this about. Almost zero people will take it as a serious instruction to be dutifully followed.