You can't wave away taking care of kids as "personal obligations", as though it was akin to doing laundry or something. Also, "I chose not to" is a silly statem

You can't wave away taking care of kids as "personal obligations", as though it was akin to doing laundry or something. Also, "I chose not to" is a silly statement - do you think all the parents looked into a crystal ball and thought yes, despite the oncoming pandemic, I will have these kids"?