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That is called life. There is no vacation when you have a sick spouse, or bought a new house, or are in a car accident. Your job shouldn't be your break, regard

by mike_d 6y ago

That is called life. There is no vacation when you have a sick spouse, or bought a new house, or are in a car accident. Your job shouldn't be your break, regardless of your situation. My wife is at a FAANG company currently covering for 4 people who all get double digit weeks off because they chose to have children. Does she get any time off for literally working 18 hour days 7 days a week? No of course not.

recursive 6y ago
> Your job shouldn't be your break, regardless of your situation. If it's less stressful that the ambient level in your life, then it's a break. Why shouldn't it be?
- mike_d 6y ago
  If your day-to-day life is that stressful, I strongly encourage you to reach out to the National Parent Helpline at 1-855-427-2736.
  - recursive 6y ago
    Thanks for your concern. I'm pretty sure it's just regular parent stuff vs regular office job though.
- ryandrake 6y ago
  Even before COVID, work was my sanity time—my sanctuary. A place with clear goals, a structured path to convert effort into success, a place where I am relatively respected and know what I’m doing. Home with children is more of a messy, emotional, soft-skill-driven, chaotic zoo. Getting a little time off to do more of that is not really a vacation.
TheSpiceIsLife 6y ago
> Your job shouldn't be your break Sarcasm: Yeah, all jobs should be stressful, tedious, and unfriendly. How dare anyone enjoy their work.
cbsks 6y ago
She has to work 18 hours a day? 7 days a week?? That doesn't sound like it's the fault of her coworkers on parental leave, that sounds like it's an issue with her manager.
Waterluvian 6y ago
> have a sick spouse or bought a new house, or are in a car accident. This made me laugh a little because they’re such bad examples unless you’re American. Universal healthcare and sane house prices make these specifically the times you can and should slow down.
- bdavisx 6y ago
  The US isn't the only country with insane housing prices - and they are only insane in portions of the country. Look @ buying a house in London or Amsterdam for example. Although US healthcare is fd though (@ work, not sure if the full f word would trigger something :)
redisman 6y ago
> FAANG > 18 hour days 7 days a week Really it’s the workers fault when one of the richest companies in the history of the world is working someone to the bone because they can’t figure out staffing?
codeyperson 6y ago
Now consider that 18 hours of work for Waterluvian right now would be an 18 hour holiday. It's all relative. It's a hard thing to grok without having experienced it. And yeah I realise how patronising that probably sounds.
- luckylion 6y ago
  > Now consider that 18 hours of work for Waterluvian right now would be an 18 hour holiday. It's all relative. It really wouldn't though, or they'd happily work 18 hours a day, just to enjoy the holiday, and then retire in a year or two, to enjoy their permanent holiday. They don't, obviously, because it's just a thing to say that sounds cool.
liveoneggs 6y ago
what happens if she stops doing that

by mike_d 6y ago

recursive 6y ago

> Your job shouldn't be your break, regardless of your situation. If it's less stressful that the ambient level in your life, then it's a break. Why shouldn't it be?

mike_d 6y ago
If your day-to-day life is that stressful, I strongly encourage you to reach out to the National Parent Helpline at 1-855-427-2736.
- recursive 6y ago
  Thanks for your concern. I'm pretty sure it's just regular parent stuff vs regular office job though.
ryandrake 6y ago
Even before COVID, work was my sanity time—my sanctuary. A place with clear goals, a structured path to convert effort into success, a place where I am relatively respected and know what I’m doing. Home with children is more of a messy, emotional, soft-skill-driven, chaotic zoo. Getting a little time off to do more of that is not really a vacation.

TheSpiceIsLife 6y ago

> Your job shouldn't be your break Sarcasm: Yeah, all jobs should be stressful, tedious, and unfriendly. How dare anyone enjoy their work.

cbsks 6y ago

She has to work 18 hours a day? 7 days a week?? That doesn't sound like it's the fault of her coworkers on parental leave, that sounds like it's an issue with her manager.

Waterluvian 6y ago

> have a sick spouse or bought a new house, or are in a car accident. This made me laugh a little because they’re such bad examples unless you’re American. Universal healthcare and sane house prices make these specifically the times you can and should slow down.

bdavisx 6y ago
The US isn't the only country with insane housing prices - and they are only insane in portions of the country. Look @ buying a house in London or Amsterdam for example. Although US healthcare is fd though (@ work, not sure if the full f word would trigger something :)

redisman 6y ago

> FAANG > 18 hour days 7 days a week Really it’s the workers fault when one of the richest companies in the history of the world is working someone to the bone because they can’t figure out staffing?

codeyperson 6y ago

Now consider that 18 hours of work for Waterluvian right now would be an 18 hour holiday. It's all relative. It's a hard thing to grok without having experienced it. And yeah I realise how patronising that probably sounds.

luckylion 6y ago
> Now consider that 18 hours of work for Waterluvian right now would be an 18 hour holiday. It's all relative. It really wouldn't though, or they'd happily work 18 hours a day, just to enjoy the holiday, and then retire in a year or two, to enjoy their permanent holiday. They don't, obviously, because it's just a thing to say that sounds cool.

liveoneggs 6y ago

what happens if she stops doing that