This isn't a direct answer to your question, but here's some background as a starting point. Some Asian cultures, especially Japan, have an inside-outside psyc

This isn't a direct answer to your question, but here's some background as a starting point. Some Asian cultures, especially Japan, have an inside-outside psychology. They present one face (image) to themself, family and close friends, and another to the office and strangers. It's like a mild form of multiple-personality disorder, but on an hourly basis: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honne_and_tatemae https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honne_and_tatemae Also there can be extreme pressures within the family on what to study or do as a career, and resulting shame in not measuring up. One of my Japanese female friends had to run away from home to the US to study at art college, for example. (To summarize, you cannot apply Western cultural norms to countries like Japan, which have no cultural similarities.) For non-Japanese countries, religion can result in an inside-outside split personality also, especially with social media and surveillance culture today. Most of my Muslim friends have private social media accounts for that reason, and even then are very selective about what to post for even friends and family to see, to avoid shaming drama. Doubly so in Islamic republics.