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I've heard American universities do a lot more hand holding than their European counterparts (not sure how this manifests). When I went to uni (and left home) i
by ido 6y ago
I've heard American universities do a lot more hand holding than their European counterparts (not sure how this manifests). When I went to uni (and left home) it definitely helped me mature - I had to worry about cleaning, buying groceries, feeding myself, doing laundry, etc.
I also had the freedom of nobody knowing or caring where I went and how late I came home (=greater responsibility for planning my time).
But I understand what you mean - i had a childhood friend who went to a 2 years vocational school after highschool (during which he lived at home) and then enlisted in the army for 4-5 years (in a non-combat technical role). I suspect the army basically takes care of you when you live on base because afterwards he moved back home & I got the feeling he pretty much stayed stuck in a child role for years later (may be complicated by mental health issues).
I think never having had to really be completely responsible for himself held him back.
- jelliclesfarm 6y agoMilitary breaks one down and the. rebuilds the person acc to specs. Very few people have a self determined life after military service. It is sad. Many in industry and service sector who are ‘company men’ and never quit their first job until retirement also face the same problem. Double edged sword.
- austincheney 6y agoAs a military person myself this description does not apply to anyone I have ever met.
- jelliclesfarm 6y agoThat makes you an unreliable narrator to opine on it.
- austincheney 6y agoThen who is a reliable narrator?
- ido 6y agoI've never been to the military but I know a lot of people who have & the vast majority of them lead normal lives.
- jelliclesfarm 6y agoSomeone who has married or has lived with or has employed or is an employee of someone who was in the military etc. AND who hasn’t been in the military themselves. in other words, the objectivity has to come from someone who has been on the receiving end without having been part of the system. For example: If I am Indian and I have an accent. Whether it’s understandable to Americans should be deemed by Americans. Not Indians.
- ryanwaggoner 6y agoAre you arguing that being in the military not only robs one of the ability to live a "self-directed life", but also the ability to even recognize what that is?
- jelliclesfarm 6y agoI am saying that conformity And obeying orders is an essential attribute of military training.
- austincheney 6y agoThat is a false stereotype attributed by people who have no access to the military and no experience with it. In what job do you not follow orders? If anything I am decidedly (perhaps obcessively) less conformist than most developers I have worked with BECAUSE of my military experience.