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I would encourage looking into the term "arrested development" to get some perspective on what Americans feel about living with your parents. We are strong beli

I would encourage looking into the term "arrested development" to get some perspective on what Americans feel about living with your parents. We are strong believers in independence and learning who you are through your own path. That's why we take such great pride in our diversity of culture and personalities. Living at home stunts that development and everyone else is worse off because we don't get the benefits of what unique things that person(not their parents) could have contributed to the greater society.

phobosanomaly 6y ago
It's true. It's an American thing. That cultural expectation has in no way adapted to the economic realities of the present generation though, and I expect it to pretty much die out within 1 to 2 generations. Families are going to have to start sticking together to survive. My dad paid rent in Pasadena, put himself through a Cal State, and put a roof over my mother and sister's head by working at a gas station. He will be the first to tell you that simply isn't economically possible anymore.
- momokoko 6y ago
  > My dad paid rent in Pasadena, put himself through a Cal State, and put a roof over my mother and sister's head by working at a gas station. He will be the first to tell you that simply isn't economically possible anymore. I certainly was never able to do that either. I just moved out and rented a room in an area I could afford and worked from there. Just because your Dad had it really easy doesn't mean its become crazy difficult. It does come across like you have a very high expectations about life because you happened to have very privileged parents. Most people in the US never had the advantages your father had and we get by just fine. Maybe we'll never be millionaires, but I think we'll both be okay.
  - phobosanomaly 6y ago
    Most people in the US did have those advantages. That's kind of my point. The guy pumping gas for minimum wage used to be able to do all of that. I don't know what your personal life situation is at the moment, and I do apologize if you are on hard times. I know it's rough out there. I'm inferring from your comment that you are in the United States. Do you really think a shot at a rented roof over one's head, a college education from a state school, and a kid is asking for the moon?
    - momokoko 6y ago
      > Most people in the US did have those advantages I would encourage you to dig deeper into US history over the last 75 years. You might find some surprises. Trust me, we'll be okay.

phobosanomaly 6y ago

It's true. It's an American thing. That cultural expectation has in no way adapted to the economic realities of the present generation though, and I expect it to pretty much die out within 1 to 2 generations. Families are going to have to start sticking together to survive. My dad paid rent in Pasadena, put himself through a Cal State, and put a roof over my mother and sister's head by working at a gas station. He will be the first to tell you that simply isn't economically possible anymore.

momokoko 6y ago
> My dad paid rent in Pasadena, put himself through a Cal State, and put a roof over my mother and sister's head by working at a gas station. He will be the first to tell you that simply isn't economically possible anymore. I certainly was never able to do that either. I just moved out and rented a room in an area I could afford and worked from there. Just because your Dad had it really easy doesn't mean its become crazy difficult. It does come across like you have a very high expectations about life because you happened to have very privileged parents. Most people in the US never had the advantages your father had and we get by just fine. Maybe we'll never be millionaires, but I think we'll both be okay.
- phobosanomaly 6y ago
  Most people in the US did have those advantages. That's kind of my point. The guy pumping gas for minimum wage used to be able to do all of that. I don't know what your personal life situation is at the moment, and I do apologize if you are on hard times. I know it's rough out there. I'm inferring from your comment that you are in the United States. Do you really think a shot at a rented roof over one's head, a college education from a state school, and a kid is asking for the moon?
  - momokoko 6y ago
    > Most people in the US did have those advantages I would encourage you to dig deeper into US history over the last 75 years. You might find some surprises. Trust me, we'll be okay.