It's a tough problem conceptually. At some point you "grow up" and your fears, biases, and immaturities are crystallized. What is the difference between a prefe

It's a tough problem conceptually. At some point you "grow up" and your fears, biases, and immaturities are crystallized. What is the difference between a preference, and something that you must overcome to mature? To me it seems (mostly) arbitrary. The distinction primarily being that once you're an adult, you can choose when to remain comfortable, and when to keep pushing yourself. When you're a child, it's forced on you. And for sure, a child who was never put outside of his comfort zone would make a bad adult. It's just hard to know until hindsight. Some things are simple bad, and should be avoided, but other things are immaturities, and you could grow out of them.