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You know, people make jokes about, for example, Indian arranged marriages, but they have one significant upside: you get to know not only your future partner, b
by mamon 6y ago
You know, people make jokes about, for example, Indian arranged marriages, but they have one significant upside: you get to know not only your future partner, but also their family, their past, the environment that they were raised in, etc. It's basically a full background check.
With casual dating via Tinder you might as well end up dating a serial killer, and even if you don't you still have much harder time really getting to know the person if you don't have any common friends, come from different cities, etc.
- have_faith 6y agoWhy does using Tinder to meet someone suddenly negate meeting the family and doing these "background checks"?
- noisy_boy 6y agoBecause the "background checks" happen upfront in case of arranged marriages. That way there isn't any emotional issues in case they fail.
- celticninja 6y agoI mean that is absolute rubbish. There are plenty of arranged marriages that fail because e.g one partner was gay and hid it from their family. No 'background' checks prevent it and there is plenty of fallout.
- noisy_boy 6y agoNobody claimed that background checks are foolproof. They check for "background" e.g. is the family known in the neighbourhood for bad conduct - they are not likely to reveal stuff one may be hiding from everyone else.
- usrusr 6y agoWhat if it's a serial killer from a reputable family? You might as well end up marrying a serial killer.
- celticninja 6y agoMaybe even marry into a family of serial killers.
- celticninja 6y agoI got to know my in laws before I married my wife. I didn't have an Indian arranged marriage. A wise man once said "in-laws are never a reason to get married or to not got married" Also I know of many Pakistani arranged marriages between 1st cousins, it leads to a lot of premature babies. So as with everything there are pros and cons. I am pretty sure that a serial killer, as with most of them, would seem normal and respectable during any family gatherings. It's not like they would be like "ah welcome to my home future life partner, do you want to see my collection of severed hookers heads?"