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People change. The ex in my case was self sufficient when I met her and then chose not to be. Was I supposed to withhold food and shelter from her to force he
by 01100011 6y ago
People change. The ex in my case was self sufficient when I met her and then chose not to be. Was I supposed to withhold food and shelter from her to force her back into the workforce?
Alimony was not obvious to me as a 21 year old introverted virgin getting married.
If you want a specific arrangement then you should draft it in your marriage contract. It should not be the default assumption imposed by the state under the threat of incarceration.
Alimony is an antiquated concept based on outdated gender stereotypes and not in line with the modern workforce. Alimony seeks to create equality when none should exist. Alimony rewards deadbeats and forces exploitative relationships to continue, often indefinitely or without end. It is abusive to many, it is unjust, and it must be reformed.
- scarface74 6y agoWhat about the case where the couple both agreed that the wife should leave the workforce to stay at home with the kids? After kids are grown, they get a divorce and then what?
- 01100011 6y agoPut it in the contract. Don't apply your rules to every marriage by default.
- scarface74 6y agoIt’s not in every marriage by default. Divorce is negotiated between lawyers, judges and juries(?).
- 01100011 6y agoNo, it is, at least in CA, and you have to have both parties agree if you want something else. Get married to a person who refuses to work and then get a divorce. Guess what? They will, by default, be entitled to the standard of living established during the marriage.