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There is rarely anything straightforward in a divorce. Children make things a lot harder but they are not the only thing. Both parties have made sacrifices and
by todd3834 6y ago
There is rarely anything straightforward in a divorce. Children make things a lot harder but they are not the only thing. Both parties have made sacrifices and both parties often contribute to success.
I’m not that familiar with the standard of living laws but if my wife and I broke up I would feel horrible if she had to severely down grade her lifestyle. I hold the position of the primary earner. My salary is several factors bigger than what she makes. However, she takes care of so many things for me that I can focus on earning. We are partners. She has easily earned her way. If we got divorced, I would still get to benefit from the position I was able to rise to with her help. She deserves to be taken care of.
- Yetanfou 6y ago> ...if my wife and I broke up I would feel horrible if she had to severely down grade her lifestyle. Would that not depend very much on the reason why you broke up? If it was because of a mutual conclusion of the relationship I can imagine this would be true. If you break up because you found out she'd been cheating on every occasion, shuffling money and attention towards her many side affairs, spreading rumours about your you and otherwise doing her best to play the black widow you probably would reconsider. If not, why not?
- todd3834 6y agoThis would be tragic but it wouldn’t change the fact that she helped me get where I am. My ego and pride would want her to get nothing but those two things rarely cause me to think rationally. Someone once said, “when you forgive someone you let a prisoner free. The surprising thing is that prisoner is yourself”. So I hope I would have the strength to forgive her, and hope the best for her life going forward.
- 01100011 6y agoShe would be rewarded with half of your accumulated wealth during the marriage. Isn't that fair? Why should you also have to continue paying her after she has stopped supporting you? What do you think a fair timeline for that support should be? A year? Five years? Half the length of the marriage? Indefinitely?
- todd3834 6y agoI don’t know the length of time that is fair but I trust the court system to determine that. This is definitely an area where my opinion is underdeveloped. I haven’t put enough thought into it to have a rational answer.
- rsynnott 6y ago> otherwise doing her best to play the black widow It is extremely rare for people to kill and eat their spouse. What a weird metaphor.