In other words these are Evolutionarily advantageous and women being the sex which selects during mating have honed in on it and chosen men who have these trait

In other words these are Evolutionarily advantageous and women being the sex which selects during mating have honed in on it and chosen men who have these traits. Studying Evolutionary psychology for the first time allowed me to reconcile women's behavior (revealed preferences) vs. their stated preferences. Women do truly prefer sensitive, considerate, balanced and intelligent men but their evolutionary sense overrides in picking those with dark traits and other advantageous traits. Again, I am sure same is true for men and I just have not studied it. The present social debate around masculinity is weird because it posits this dichotomy between sex behaviors while being blissfully ignorant that is the two sexes who have selected this in each other over the past millions of years. Once folks realize this we can all calm down and maybe go back to thoughtfully working on overriding them. Diana Fleischman's Evo Psych intro https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lb8fH9wouYI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lb8fH9wouYI