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I’m sure that phenomenon exists but I doubt it’s universal. It seems obvious that many narcissists, in wanting to be loved, have learned to avoid making stateme

I’m sure that phenomenon exists but I doubt it’s universal. It seems obvious that many narcissists, in wanting to be loved, have learned to avoid making statements that make a majority of people dislike them.

chadcmulligan 6y ago
You'd think so, and no doubt there are some, but the study says otherwise: In a series of 11 experiments involving more than 2,200 people of all ages, the researchers found they could reliably identify narcissistic people by asking them this exact question (including the note): To what extent do you agree with this statement: “I am a narcissist.” (Note: The word “narcissist” means egotistical, self-focused, and vain.)
- jack_pp 6y ago
  What does reliably identify mean? 10% false negative rate? 30%? You don't have to be very smart to fool these kinds of self reported tests if you wish to go under the radar.
username90 6y ago
Psychologists only looks at how you act and not how you feel. So if a narcissist can suppress his narcissistic traits to get love then he isn't a narcissist. I don't really agree with that though, we call persons racists even though they say that whites aren't the superior race etc, the same should apply to narcisists.
- watwut 6y ago
  this is not true.
- grugagag 6y ago
  They only suppress it in the courting phase also known as love bombing. Once they have their subjects invested they show their unmasked face. Narcissists also suppres or wear a maks to the outside world and oftentimes they project an image of dependable and likeable people. Think of policians and what they say or the image they build to garner votes vis a vis of what they actially do, their actions, which don’t correspond with their projected image.
watwut 6y ago
The narcissist I knew was not too good at seeing things from other peoples perspective. Meaning, would say thinfa like that assuming others agree. Lifetime of bullying dissent leaves you with people who wonr object. Narcissists can love bomb and can bully. They are not limiting themselves to be likable

chadcmulligan 6y ago

You'd think so, and no doubt there are some, but the study says otherwise: In a series of 11 experiments involving more than 2,200 people of all ages, the researchers found they could reliably identify narcissistic people by asking them this exact question (including the note): To what extent do you agree with this statement: “I am a narcissist.” (Note: The word “narcissist” means egotistical, self-focused, and vain.)

jack_pp 6y ago
What does reliably identify mean? 10% false negative rate? 30%? You don't have to be very smart to fool these kinds of self reported tests if you wish to go under the radar.

username90 6y ago

Psychologists only looks at how you act and not how you feel. So if a narcissist can suppress his narcissistic traits to get love then he isn't a narcissist. I don't really agree with that though, we call persons racists even though they say that whites aren't the superior race etc, the same should apply to narcisists.

watwut 6y ago
this is not true.
grugagag 6y ago
They only suppress it in the courting phase also known as love bombing. Once they have their subjects invested they show their unmasked face. Narcissists also suppres or wear a maks to the outside world and oftentimes they project an image of dependable and likeable people. Think of policians and what they say or the image they build to garner votes vis a vis of what they actially do, their actions, which don’t correspond with their projected image.

watwut 6y ago

The narcissist I knew was not too good at seeing things from other peoples perspective. Meaning, would say thinfa like that assuming others agree. Lifetime of bullying dissent leaves you with people who wonr object. Narcissists can love bomb and can bully. They are not limiting themselves to be likable