I think there used to be more of a tacit understanding and silent acceptance of this. Don't ask don't tell basically. It doesn't fit the ideal that your inner

I think there used to be more of a tacit understanding and silent acceptance of this. Don't ask don't tell basically. It doesn't fit the ideal that your inner and outer life should be in accordance. It's what makes americans envious of the french and their infamous 5-a-7pm window, and how normal people imagine romance and commitment between the hereditary wealthy. Those arrangements still rely on concealment though, the hurt of proven infidelity is often all too real (regardless if you're french or not). Societal norms no longer encourage or condone willful ignorance.