If you have read "Blink" by Gladwell, he points to work by a sociologist who can, with incredible accuracy, predict whether a marriage will last 15 years--in a

If you have read "Blink" by Gladwell, he points to work by a sociologist who can, with incredible accuracy, predict whether a marriage will last 15 years--in a matter of 15 minutes. While watching a live feed of a conversation between couples, they will be prompted to discuss something arbitrary. The researchers are looking for emotions and intentions. They have found that emotions pointing to disrespect and disdain are the highest factors for marriage failure. Western culture might have things backwards. It is not love first, commit second, respect third. It is more accurately respect first, commitment second, and love third. Love being in the 'eros' sense. The primary feeds the secondary feeds the tertiary.