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I wish every leader gets access to these frameworks and takeaways. The #1 issue I face with every single client I've worked with over the years as an executive

by LeonW 6y ago

I wish every leader gets access to these frameworks and takeaways. The #1 issue I face with every single client I've worked with over the years as an executive coach is exactly what they are pointing out here: that dealing with our emotions and inner worlds is the biggest challenge of all. Learning to deal with that has the highest ROI on both success and fulfillment/happiness compared to any other activity for a leader imo.

jonnymiller 6y ago
Thanks Leo, we have you to thank for introducing us to the concept of 'emotional debt'. I totally agree that for the majority of us, navigating the inner-world + increasing self-awareness has an absurdly high ROI on success/fulfillment. What I also find fascinating is how running a company or leading a team appear to be an incredibly efficient vehicle for surfacing one's own sh*t—and once this new perspective is adopted—it becomes more potent than any self-help program out there for one's own personal growth.
alexanderdou 6y ago
I'm very early in my career, but I've noticed that being able to sense, reflect on, and grapple with one's emotions to be so lacking at work. It's also been one of the biggest invisible skills in my own career: it helps me navigate disagreements with colleagues by "getting us on the same side of the problem, rather than on opposite sides"; it helps me avoid self-sabotage by creating narratives in my head and falling into the cognitive distortions of mind reading and fortune telling that I know I'm particularly prone to; it helps me interface with customers and graciously accept feedback, even if it's not delivered in the kindest way But nobody teaches it. It was never in a training. I never learned it in school. It's almost like nobody knows it exists! Anyway, btw, thanks for your work. I recently signed up for your newsletter and it's been really wonderful. I really enjoy the kindness you bring to your writing.

by LeonW 6y ago

jonnymiller 6y ago

Thanks Leo, we have you to thank for introducing us to the concept of 'emotional debt'. I totally agree that for the majority of us, navigating the inner-world + increasing self-awareness has an absurdly high ROI on success/fulfillment. What I also find fascinating is how running a company or leading a team appear to be an incredibly efficient vehicle for surfacing one's own sh*t—and once this new perspective is adopted—it becomes more potent than any self-help program out there for one's own personal growth.

alexanderdou 6y ago

I'm very early in my career, but I've noticed that being able to sense, reflect on, and grapple with one's emotions to be so lacking at work. It's also been one of the biggest invisible skills in my own career: it helps me navigate disagreements with colleagues by "getting us on the same side of the problem, rather than on opposite sides"; it helps me avoid self-sabotage by creating narratives in my head and falling into the cognitive distortions of mind reading and fortune telling that I know I'm particularly prone to; it helps me interface with customers and graciously accept feedback, even if it's not delivered in the kindest way But nobody teaches it. It was never in a training. I never learned it in school. It's almost like nobody knows it exists! Anyway, btw, thanks for your work. I recently signed up for your newsletter and it's been really wonderful. I really enjoy the kindness you bring to your writing.