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It's not that their feelings don't matter, it's that their is nothing anyone can do for them. I'm very ugly, I'm very single. I don't expect anyone to do anyth

by LandR 6y ago

It's not that their feelings don't matter, it's that their is nothing anyone can do for them. I'm very ugly, I'm very single. I don't expect anyone to do anything about it for me. You just have to get on with life and make the best of it. Be a nice person and try to enjoy yourself. If the worst thing you have to deal with in life is having a sub-optimal face then you're probably pretty luck! Act like it.

Kalium 6y ago
In my limited personal experience, the emotional journey of "Shut up, nobody cares about your feelings you overprivileged ass" is very different from that of "That sounds very painful, I'm so sorry you're going through that". I'm sure others have had different experiences. As you say, there often isn't anything obviously actionable. It's just that in some cases, for some people, going from nothing actionable to dismissive can be a good way to convince them to find people who at least offer a hint of empathy. Again, you're completely right. There's absolutely nothing anyone can do for them. Except, I think it might be the case that listening with sincerity might be an option.